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embarrassed of lack of experience
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hi ive got an embarrassing situation. Im 28 end of july and am a really shy girl. I havent had a serious boyfriend let alone have sex - not my choice. Its only now im getting an awful lot of attention off guys when im out. Dont know why but it certainly is making me feel alot better and confident in myself even had quite a few snogs!
Anyway i just want it out the way now and now and again a guy does make it obvious they want me to home with them. I would if i had more experience. I have a vibrator and know what does it for me so at least i got that.... and my hymen has been broken so its not going to be painful and am totally ready for it. Just worried how a guy will react
Anyway i just want it out the way now and now and again a guy does make it obvious they want me to home with them. I would if i had more experience. I have a vibrator and know what does it for me so at least i got that.... and my hymen has been broken so its not going to be painful and am totally ready for it. Just worried how a guy will react
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I agree with both of the replies you've had so far.
I'm ready for it just like you are but I'm not going to go out to a club one weekend, get drunk and attempt to pick up any old random stranger just to "get it out of the way", and I have thought about it.
I'd like it to mean something. I don't know what that something is, and i'm certainly not waiting for "the one" before I do it, but you've waited long enough and it would be a shame to waste your virginity on some bloke who essentially only wants you for one thing and just uses you and chucks you.
Seems you have no problem attracting male attention, am sure it won't be too long before you find the right one....
I really hate being this age and like this i want to be experienced like most girls of my age feel such a freak. I nearly lost it once to a close mate but he turned out to be an arse and it didnt work out.
Yes i have been getting abit attention the past 4 times ive been out pulled about 4/5 guys and boys do come up to me so i guess that isnt a problem
Wanting to be like most girls your age isn't a good reason to have sex.
I can understand your frustration all too well but don't give it away for nothing. I have no doubts you would regret it. There is every chance that the 19 year old you encountered was also an arse!!!!
Going home with a random from a club could go badly, not because 'it should be special' or any of that bullshit, but the likelihood of it not being awful in that circumstance is pretty low.
With these guys coming on to you just give them a dazzling smile and your phone number and say it'd be fun to see them again.
why would the club thing end up bad/
Because it's likely that you'd be drunk. I personally also don't like the idea of going home with strangers. Best to get to know someone first.
You might find yourself more nerve wracked with a stranger, especially if you dont feel safe.
I'm not saying you should save yourself for "the one", or anything as drastic as that, just be careful about who you choose to have sex with. Taking a little bit of time to make sure that the man will be considerate- that he'll focus on your pleasure as well as his- is a much better idea than having a drunken fumble. He doesn't have to be a long-term romantic partner if that's not what you want, a fling can be gentle and considerate, but make sure that you're both sober enough to have fun and have pleasure.
Sometimes I'm totally comfortable with someone the first time I meet them, but often I would have to have known them for a while. If you're not relaxed, you won't enjoy it.