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Commitment issues
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My fuck buddy has fallen for me, we're going out on a date thing on saturday. The sex is a.maz.ing. and i dont wanna give that up but im not looking for anything serious from him, and im going to tell him beforehand so he's not expecting anything more. Thing is, i still care about him, and i dont want to lose him or hurt him, i love the relationship we have but still want to be unattached if that makes sense.
But im going to a festival next week where there'll be people with similar interests to mine, im worried that if i meet somone (for a serious thing) i'll have to break it off with FB, ut would feel like a total bitch if i did sinc im going to tell him i want to stay unattached.
I dont know what to do, i feel like im obligated to stay loyal to him even though i shouldnt do, because he is a FB, th whole point is that we can sleep around and drop each other if need be
But im going to a festival next week where there'll be people with similar interests to mine, im worried that if i meet somone (for a serious thing) i'll have to break it off with FB, ut would feel like a total bitch if i did sinc im going to tell him i want to stay unattached.
I dont know what to do, i feel like im obligated to stay loyal to him even though i shouldnt do, because he is a FB, th whole point is that we can sleep around and drop each other if need be
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If you still wanna do what you wanna do, go ahead.
Also i texted him last night to say i wasnt interested in being serious with him, but happy with how things were before and still want to meet up if he does. No reply yet though, i hope i havent hurt him too much
I like him as a friend, he's a nice guy, and all it ever was was a bit of fun, he's not my type for a boyfriend at all, i.e. we dont share the same interests, but as seen in that other thread i did start to fall for him a tad because of the attention he gave me but i dont feel that way anymore (he havent spoken for a while so i reckon thats why).
I just dont want to hurt him. I feel like after this, even if we both want to, we may not be able to go back to the way things were. I'd feel guilty now for using him and if i met someone it would be like i was cheating even though the point of no-string is so you can freely meet people etc.
Why is a relationship automatically linked to getting hurt? If this is all, and the sex is great and it suffices you that the only sex you get is by him I don't see the harm with upgrading from just fuck buddy status. Won't be a solution if you don't have feelings for him, but be prepared that you lose a fuck buddy either way you decide.