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During the last few years the amount of friends i've had have slowley decreased through moving, fall outs and loosing contact etc and now its got to the point i havent got any. Quite recently i left my job due to problems with my health and depression. For the past few months ive basicly done nothing but stay in and not socialise with anyone. As stupid as it sounds i've kinda forgotting how to mix with new people and find it hard to fit in, its not as if i havent tried but havin problems with my speech makes it hard and i allways get the impression that people think im a bit wierd or sumit when i do start talking. Its getting to the point that im thinking of what my life is going to be like in the next 10-20 years and wether im still gonna be a loner.
obviousley I cant see myself been the only person in this kind of situation and im just wondering if theres such a thing as a group or courses that i could go to which are aimed for adults with simular problems.
obviousley I cant see myself been the only person in this kind of situation and im just wondering if theres such a thing as a group or courses that i could go to which are aimed for adults with simular problems.
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As for the problems with your speech, go to your doctor, they may be able to pass you to a speech therapist. I'm sure it would be worth a try.
Sorry to hear you are feeling lonely. Meeting people can sometimes be daunting. Volunteering is a really good way to meet people who have similar interests as you - you could volunteer from arts to sports in your local area, there is a wide range.
Have you been able to look for a job since having to leave the last one? This could really help you get back on your feet and keep busy thinking of other things.
Perhaps you could also visit your local college and see if they do interesting adult courses you'd like?
Feel free to keep posting, as you say many people are in similar situations *hug*
The best way and as from my experience the only successful way of making friends in the adult world is through friends. I'm not convinced that its possible to make friends from scratch when you're not at school or uni.
I didn't find that. Since uni, I've made friends at work, church, wind band...
Most of the friends I've made since school have been through work. TBH i have always found making friends through friends difficult. I've met plenty of people but very few of them have gone on to be my friends (assuming facebook doesn't count :rolleyes:)
Making new friends takes time and effort but there does come a point when you need to call it quits and move on.
I think getting your confidence up would be a good start. Are you getting any help with your speech? That might make you less shy when talking to others.