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The tone of some of the posts have been less than objective and verging on personal. That is my opinion. This isn't a malicious place but it IS a place where a relatively small core of members post the vast majority of the posts, and if threads or posts can be seen as being hostile to certain types of content then it will only further discourage new users from joining up or sticking around. Again, my opinion.
You may be right. I hope you're not. I know I've been around a while so maybe my perspective is skewed but I haven't noticed any fewer new members lately so I hope on the whole things are still friendly and encouraging.
Interestingly, the first time I read it I found what you said there to be a bit of a personal dig at a group of users so it just shows that the reader's perspective makes a huge difference because I'm sure that's not what you meant.
Yeah, that's a good point and a fair one. Interpretation can make all the difference and you could definitely read what I said as an attack on the original post if you just read my one post in isolation. It wasn't my intention, but again that only illustrates your point.
I think I've said enough in this thread so I'll bow out gracefully I have no issues with anyone here, I just put my points forward like anyone else. It takes all sorts to make a world
Anything Goes has always been a random melting pot of light hearted topics, there aren't any guidelines on keeping it light hearted because good posting etiquette would be to recognise the nature of the different boards and to put your queries or problems in the correct one. That way your potentially life changing problem isn't lost in the general randomness of this forum but is in a place where people will see it and will have time to respond before it's "lost" in the digital ether.
It's very easy to be ignored in Anything Goes.
I've been here on and off for 6 years. Why does it seem within only this year, we've had the issues of people posting inappropriately?
It can be confusing when posting on here because there are some threads in the anything goes, such as the ranty thread, where people post in there how they are feeling at the moment or as the title says, to 'have a rant', and some of the posts may be triggering to some people.
Sometimes it's easier to just have a quick rant on a thread that has already been made for that purpose rather than start a whole new thread when all you want to do is get something off your chest (which is something I am guilty of).
That's how I see it anyway, and comments which have been made on here might just make someone not post how they are feeling just in fear of offending someone.
I know it's not my place to say as I have only been here for a month or so, but that's just my opinion.
That is why this thread was made.
Because we have had this discussion before and it was agreed back then that we keep these things in the appropriate forums so that people aren't made to feel uncomfortable posting in Anything Goes.
Because it's confusing knowing where to post when there are different threads where it could go.
I just don't really see what all the fuss is about.
The fuss is about people reading things that they don't want to read in a place that should be free from it.
"I'm feeling rubbish today" and "I've self-harmed/I'm starving myself/other potentially triggering content" are not the same.
If I am already feeling rubbish, reading that shit doesn't help me. I should have the choice to go and read that if I want to.
The "I need a hug" thread is the H&WB version of the ranty thread, where people can post the above kind of posts without making other people uncomfortable.
This site isn't just a site for people with mental health issues, and as such those people who are unfortunate enough to HAVE mental health issues should be courteous enough to realise that not everybody wants to read about how they're suicidal today.
I will learn from this and I'm sure others will too.
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Nobody is going to mind too much if a newbie posts in the wrong forum.
Our problem is when people who were part of the original conversation still continue to disrespect other users by doing it.
I think most of these wrong forum posts have occured because of these endless "put everything here" threads. Instead of people making their own threads for problems, they have a plethora of negative based threads to put them in (i need a hug, rant, scream, swearing, displeasures...) I'm sure it is hard for members to know where to post things when there is nothing but negativity in every board and they are filled with these giant post all things here.
Emotions and issues aren't the same as posting what you are listening to, a lot of things probably deserve their own threads and perhaps the posters want to make one but feel like they cannot because of the insane amount of large negative threads that have been created.
So many places dedicated to negativity everywhere you look!
Rants started off as the ideal place for those little 'Grrrr' moments, like pouring your pasta down the sink, or locking yourself out. It drifted towards being a very negative place, and needs picking back up from that really.
I see no problem with there being a home for bad days in Health and Well being, or a list of Grrrr moments in Anything Goes, but it needs to stay that way.
That is a fair point.
I don't really like the idea of a thread filled with negativity - hence why I created my own thread yesterday(?). My thoughts could have quite easily gone in the 'hug' thread, but actually.... I don't want it piled in with all the other negative thoughts. Not because I think that all the attention should be on me or whatever (it wouldn't have mattered if only one person had replied with a hug or something) but I don't want to contribute to some deep dark pit of negativity.... it also means that if I am feeling better, or if something changes, I have the chance to tell you guys about it. I could have written this to make more sense. But ah well.
Where do people post positive mental health stuff?