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Kissing Issue - Odd ?
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Everytime that I kiss my girflriend whether it be on the lips, kneck, shoulder, etc...she always wipes the area immediately afterwards with her hand. Most recently, she had just gotten out of the shower and was bent over drying herself off when I gave her a couple soft kisses on the back of her should after which she stated, "Please don't take this offensive or be upset but I don't like that (being kissed there)". I'm not sure whether or not to think much of it but I've never been in a relationship with a girl that has ever done this so I am quite confused. I've asked her about it and the only answer that she can give me is that she just does that (wipes the area afterward or doesn't like being kissed anywhere but on the lips). Even on the lips she wipes them after being kissed there and doesn't like being kissed anywhere else. I thought being kissed on the neck, shoulders, etc...was a turn on (that wasn't my intention) or something that girls enjoyed?
Guys: Have you ever been with a girl that has done/been like this?
Girls: Do/have you done this? Why?
Any comments, suggestions, thoughts, etc...are greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Just for backround information.....we've been together for almost 2 years now and have lived together for a year. We're no strangers to being physical with one another so it isn't a "shy" issue or anything like that...
thanks again!
Guys: Have you ever been with a girl that has done/been like this?
Girls: Do/have you done this? Why?
Any comments, suggestions, thoughts, etc...are greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Just for backround information.....we've been together for almost 2 years now and have lived together for a year. We're no strangers to being physical with one another so it isn't a "shy" issue or anything like that...
thanks again!
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It seems to me that she may have a strong inclination for her own personal space. This could be for a variety of reasons, but not everyone likes being touched. And others just like to take things slowly. To me, it seems she may have some chastity bounds, whether for religious reasons or whatever, that you should respect.
The wiping thing is something a lot of people do if the kissing is sloppy. If you trail saliva behind after kissing someone, they may not like that wet feeling you leave behind.
It's not necessarily normal in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship, though. At least, unless she's said before that she has problems with physical contact.
Well it's normal for me.
I guess this just shows that there is certainly an element of everyone being different with regards to if and how they like being touched.
It might be that, as yellowseahorse says, she has just recently decided to be more open about what she does and doesnt like - next time she says she doesn't like something, perhaps you could ask her, genuinely, what she does like. This way, you may be able to start a chat about what she likes, and maybe, why things have changed recently. It might be that there are other things going on for her at the moment which means she generally feels less sexual and less like being touched.
Agreed! x
Suffice to say they didn't get married, they didn't raise a brood of children, and they aren't living happily ever after together...
Dump her, before she dumps you.
But not all people will absolutely love everything. There are places I don't really like to be touched/kissed, and it is nothing to do with how intimate I am being with someone, it is just a personal preference and actually, doesn't really mean anything at all!