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sensual tips for pleasuring her

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Hi ya, Have been with my gf for coming up 5 months now an we have brillilant times together, and it has got to the stage where we've been having sex; given I'm her first time, I like to think that I not a selfish guy, love spendin time in foreplay and goin down pleasuring her, and on that note was wondering if anyone out there had some advise on techniques or ways for how could try things more pleasurable or sensual for her?; i.e simulating her clitros, as want to share some new and exciting things, to try with her.
Chad:)

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    so glad u love going down on me and pleasuring me in foreplay ;) people please give us some advice, will be greatly appreciated!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/sexual_response_orgasm_a_users_guide

    http://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexuality/yield_for_pleasure

    http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/men/article1937394.ece

    http://www.handbag.com/relationship/sex/tips/

    http://uk.askmen.com/dating/love_tip/36_love_tip.htm

    loads of advice on google. Cosmopolitan mag tend to do lots of sex tips too.

    I can also reccomend a book which i purchased from Ann Summers 'ride 'em cow girl' for her to read.

    best advice i can give is both of you do your homework. lots of literature out there on the subject but also do practical activities too. invest in your time together exploring each others bodies, taking time to find out what feels good rather than just rushing into penetration or orgasm, think of it as a pleasent jog rather than a race to the end. make sure you are exploring your own bodies seperately too alone, this will help you know what feels good and what doesn't and then you can share it with your partner.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    **Summer-Raindrops** wrote: »
    invest in your time together exploring each others bodies, taking time to find out what feels good rather than just rushing into penetration or orgasm, think of it as a pleasent jog rather than a race to the end.

    :yes:

    On which note, (I haven't looked at the links so this may be included) it's fun to play with sensations which aren't overtly sexual in building up tension/anticipation. Try ice cubes, different textured fabrics over skin, massage, and take some time to get to know each others' bodies.

    One of my most memorable nights with an ex was when we spent a couple of hours simply noticing and playing with every inch of each other, and talking about how different things felt - by the end of the night we had both found new erogenous zones on ourselves that we never knew existed, and could describe each others' bodies in detail - down to things like where a freckle was. We felt so much closer to each other, and that alone boosted our sex life hugely.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thank you :) we have got the choc body paint from ann summers, he suggested i bring that along.. i find stimulating my clit directly makes me shudder and i don't like that, just like being touched in certain parts. sex surely shouldn't hurt every time though? seems the only way he could get in me was if i was on top and couldnt stay in me for long, my mate says maybe im pushing up too high and he slips out, could that be the case ? we find it tricky for him to get in me and kills for a minute when he does!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its talked about in the links i put on ur other thread :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanks gonna check them out :)
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