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sex advice- any other girls experienced this!
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hi there,
was with my guy a few days ago , we played about and was hard for him to get inside me cos i was tight, we used plenty of lube, cherry durex one stung a bit at times, i read on the net that it would, wonder why though! he fingered me starting with 1 then building it up to 3, i was in agony but didn't bleed i wanted him to cos i wanted him to sort out my hyman so sex next time is better .. do u think he got through my hyman and sex would be better? he only seemed to go inside me if i got on top and laid back and sat on his cock, first time it did hurt when i sat, any other positions we could do?
hoping you can help!
hope it was a normal experience that other girls have felt also
was with my guy a few days ago , we played about and was hard for him to get inside me cos i was tight, we used plenty of lube, cherry durex one stung a bit at times, i read on the net that it would, wonder why though! he fingered me starting with 1 then building it up to 3, i was in agony but didn't bleed i wanted him to cos i wanted him to sort out my hyman so sex next time is better .. do u think he got through my hyman and sex would be better? he only seemed to go inside me if i got on top and laid back and sat on his cock, first time it did hurt when i sat, any other positions we could do?
hoping you can help!
hope it was a normal experience that other girls have felt also
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Hope you had a nice weekend :d
Just wanted to point you in the direction of the 'Having Sex' section of TheSite.org as there are lots of useful articles there which could help answer some of your questions, in particular one about painful sex which you might like to read.
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/havingsex
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/havingsex/performanceproblems/painfulsex
Everyone's experiences with sex will be different so don't worry to much about comparing your personal situation to your friends. If you're ever really worried about anything you can visit your GP or a local Brook Advisory Clinic.
Hope that's useful
Take care
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thanks i did have a nice weekend- to be honest i'd prefer if someone could answer my questions- that article didn't tell me anything that i don't already know.
If you could give some ideas on those lines that would help.
Sorry you had that pointless ' how was your weekend' post - it was just a spammer and has now been removed so try not to be irritated by it.
The experience you described in your first post is pretty normal and may well relate to how relaxed you were feeling. Although artificial lube can aid the process, it's not necessarily a magic cure for potential pain if you skip spending time with foreplay and rush into penetration. There are lots of positions you and your guy could try and ultimately taking your time and getting well into the mood will mean that it becomes more pleasurable. It's also good to keep talking with your guy to make sure he knows what feels good for you. It is also true that the hymen can hurt when it first tears, but after that first time, it shouldn't continue to be an issue.
As we're not trained medical professionals at TheSite.org, if after further experimentation you're still feeling pain and are worried about it, then a trip to a brook clinic as suggested by katypataty may well be a good move - they're really friendly advisors and are specifically trained to help young people and can probably answer any fundamental health related issues.
If you don't have a brook centre local to you then you always ask them a question via email - https://www.askbrook.org.uk/Question.asp
Or select sexual health in our askTheSite service to get an answer from a trained professional.
Let us know if you have any further worries along these lines.
With regards to the pain, it is better to take it slowly than to rush it 'to get it over with'. If you try and take too much inside you too quickly it will hurt; take it slowly and let your vaginal walls get used to the girth of his cock. If you were fingering it could also be that a fingernail caught you and made a little cut inside you- make sure his fingernails are short and blunt.
dont bother with the durex one, ky is cheaper