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just having a whinge about a colleague...
BillieTheBot
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...because i'm really annoyed and i want to get my thoughts out somewhere. not really expecting any replies or owt.
last night i went to my work's christmas party. it was lots of fun.
however, something that happened is really beginning to bother me. it probably shouldn't but it is. basically, me and my colleagues were all dancing in a group as you do. one of my colleagues was ridiculously smashed. you could tell from his dancing, lol. anyway, the thing that is bothering me is the fact he groped me. i did not want this. i wasn't even dancing near this guy. he just came up behind me though, put his hands on my waist, moved them up and then with both hands, had a good feel of my boobs...IN FRONT OF EVERYONE including the bosses.
i feel really bad about it. i know i probably shouldn't as it was just a grope but you know, i do. i feel a bit dirty and violated. only my boyfriend should touch me and i feel as though this bloke has completed taken the piss out of me. the fact he is quite a bit older than me is making me cringe a bit too. everyone looked a bit shocked but just laughed and carried on dancing.
its annoying me because the bloke is a married man and i'm a taken girl. he had no right to feel me up like that. i did not ask for it, i wasn't even dancing near him. i didn't really talk to him much throughout the night either. it honestly was all a bit random and happened very quickly. i wasn't even wearing anything that revealed anything (not that would mean i was asking for it but you get what i mean). i was wearing a very floaty dress and you couldn't even see my boobs!
so yeah i'm just whinging. i feel quite angry about it. i know i'm probably making a big deal out of nothing but its just upset me. just feel a bit humilated as he did it infront of everyone and i hate the fact he felt me the way he did. he probably won't remember what he did as he was drunk but its no excuse.
eurgh. whinge over.
last night i went to my work's christmas party. it was lots of fun.
however, something that happened is really beginning to bother me. it probably shouldn't but it is. basically, me and my colleagues were all dancing in a group as you do. one of my colleagues was ridiculously smashed. you could tell from his dancing, lol. anyway, the thing that is bothering me is the fact he groped me. i did not want this. i wasn't even dancing near this guy. he just came up behind me though, put his hands on my waist, moved them up and then with both hands, had a good feel of my boobs...IN FRONT OF EVERYONE including the bosses.
i feel really bad about it. i know i probably shouldn't as it was just a grope but you know, i do. i feel a bit dirty and violated. only my boyfriend should touch me and i feel as though this bloke has completed taken the piss out of me. the fact he is quite a bit older than me is making me cringe a bit too. everyone looked a bit shocked but just laughed and carried on dancing.
its annoying me because the bloke is a married man and i'm a taken girl. he had no right to feel me up like that. i did not ask for it, i wasn't even dancing near him. i didn't really talk to him much throughout the night either. it honestly was all a bit random and happened very quickly. i wasn't even wearing anything that revealed anything (not that would mean i was asking for it but you get what i mean). i was wearing a very floaty dress and you couldn't even see my boobs!
so yeah i'm just whinging. i feel quite angry about it. i know i'm probably making a big deal out of nothing but its just upset me. just feel a bit humilated as he did it infront of everyone and i hate the fact he felt me the way he did. he probably won't remember what he did as he was drunk but its no excuse.
eurgh. whinge over.
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Has he done/said anything that's made you uncomfortable before? If not I really would just let it go unless/until he does it again, and then take it to your bosses. Or kick him in the nuts. Either is good.
yeah, well i'm going to let it go anyway. i'm not one to really kick up a fuss about things. i'm just moaning on here to get it out of my system before i go work later on as i am quite annoyed about it!
nah, he hasn't done anything to make me feel uncomfortable before. he's a nice guy normally! think he was just really wasted...
I think that's a good attitude to have. If he does it again though, like, them shoes you have to wear - they're pretty heavy, eh...?
Best to let it go unless he does anything again he had no right and u was not leading him on this is the evils of alcohol i'm afraid. x
Just sayin'.
think i'm just going to let it go. feel a bit better now i've whinged about it lol.
Its definitely not ok to do that, and i think he should get a bollocking by someone
As a one off isolated incident outside of work time, how does that suddenly make it significantly worse? If it was harassment, or your boss and made work difficult in the future then possibly, but otherwise it was a drunken prat at a party.
Rant about it and move on.
i feel much better after ranting about it on here. i was overreacting when i woke up this morning.
no, id have caused a scene at the time. I certainly wouldnt just let either a random bloke, or a colleague or anyone feel up my tits without any comeback, and id certainly say this means hes NOT a lovely bloke
I'd agree. I have been smashed hundreds of times but have never felt the need to grope anyone.
Have always been a believer that peoples true personality comes out under the influence and they do/say things they don't have the nerve to do sober. He'd probably always wanted to grope you.... :eek:
You have every right to be upset about it....
What I mean is that if you would have turned around and walloped this colleague I presume nobody from your work would have batted an eyelid. But because you have left it for a while it would appear a little petty if you complained to your superiors now.
Either way you're 100% right that it isn't on. My advice would be that if an incident like this ever happens again you would be better served acting right away rather than dwelling on it. I guarentee if you would have put him in his place there and then you would feel much better about the whole situation.