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Christmas Present Problems
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Is it too early to start mentioning Christmas? 
I could leave it and post this thread tomorrow so at least it's December, but ahh sod it!
I've started thinking about Christmas pressies for my boyfriend, but am having some difficulty. In general I've found it quite hard to get over that he's had several long term relationships before me; he's pretty much always been in a relationship for the past...8 years, and we're only in our early 20s! I know the problem's mine, it's not like he's done anything wrong, and I am working on it. But because of this I'm struggling for Christmas present ideas! All the usuals - watches, wallets etc. he's got because an ex-girlfriend bought them for him, and this is also the case with more specific things that are related to his hobbies.
As a sort of poll of opinion, could I buy him something his ex has bought him before, or something similar? Just a newer/nicer version. Or, is this creating a bit of problem because he's then gotta choose which he prefers. Or, I guess I'm a bit on the insecure side, so I'd think he probs has some sentimental attachment to the watch/wallet/clothes his ex got him so won't want to them replace.
He's a fairly simple lad, and having always had a girlfriend it means he's entirely kitted out and impossible to buy for! Just wondered what everyone thought, or am I whaaay over thinking this...which I do have a tendency to do
I could leave it and post this thread tomorrow so at least it's December, but ahh sod it!I've started thinking about Christmas pressies for my boyfriend, but am having some difficulty. In general I've found it quite hard to get over that he's had several long term relationships before me; he's pretty much always been in a relationship for the past...8 years, and we're only in our early 20s! I know the problem's mine, it's not like he's done anything wrong, and I am working on it. But because of this I'm struggling for Christmas present ideas! All the usuals - watches, wallets etc. he's got because an ex-girlfriend bought them for him, and this is also the case with more specific things that are related to his hobbies.
As a sort of poll of opinion, could I buy him something his ex has bought him before, or something similar? Just a newer/nicer version. Or, is this creating a bit of problem because he's then gotta choose which he prefers. Or, I guess I'm a bit on the insecure side, so I'd think he probs has some sentimental attachment to the watch/wallet/clothes his ex got him so won't want to them replace.
He's a fairly simple lad, and having always had a girlfriend it means he's entirely kitted out and impossible to buy for! Just wondered what everyone thought, or am I whaaay over thinking this...which I do have a tendency to do
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but if you find the perfect gift, dont let these concern worry you. if you bought him a tshirt (let's assume he has far too many tshirts) then i am sure he would cherish it because it's from you. it will forever be the tshirt that you got him. sod everything else x
http://www.buyagift.co.uk/Category/Id/1051/Name/Sphereing?cm_mmc=google-_-Adrenaline|Sphereing%20Broad%20%26%20Phrase-_-sphereing%20experience-_-Phrase&gclid=CP7YitnayaUCFYIe4QodPzmn_Q
For christmas I decided to be a bit more practical and bought him the simon's cat books and a Cross pen set so he can at least pretend to be a grown up.
I say try to get presents around a theme that is relevant to you - all the stuff I buy him is because we joke around about cats or platypuses, jelly etc. Better than a generic wallet.
Yeh, i agree with this- also maybe something personal like a collage of photos of you together (or just one in a nice frame) and jokey stuff is always good