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I'm really lonely.
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I moved to London for uni this year, and I haven't made any real friends yet.
I was on a different course last year but my previous group of friends seem disinterested as they never invite me to do things and are always busy when I suggest anything. At uni most people are in halls and our class groups change all the time so it's difficult to get to know people. However, the one person I get on with fantastically lives in Kent and works all weekend. I was part of a uni society last year but now the head of it has changed and she doesn't make much of an effort with events. My uni isn't a campus uni so it's not great for social things.
I live with two lovely girls (as a result of a 'house-mate wanted' Facebook page) a few years older than me, but they're always busy with uni work and spending time with their own friends and boyfriends. I work in a little shop, but I'm the youngest and my shifts clash with anyone near my age so I haven't really met anyone on my wavelength.
My boyfriend lives a good while away, and to top it off I'm not from England so it takes me at least four hours and around £100 to go back home!
I really don't know what to do. On my days of from uni/work I just sit in my room by myself and it's making me so miserable. I've had a very difficult year with my family and having no friends to spend time with is really pushing me over the edge. Apologies for the length of this thread (and the fact there have been loads like it) but I've tried all the usual methods and I'm still so, so lonely.
I was on a different course last year but my previous group of friends seem disinterested as they never invite me to do things and are always busy when I suggest anything. At uni most people are in halls and our class groups change all the time so it's difficult to get to know people. However, the one person I get on with fantastically lives in Kent and works all weekend. I was part of a uni society last year but now the head of it has changed and she doesn't make much of an effort with events. My uni isn't a campus uni so it's not great for social things.
I live with two lovely girls (as a result of a 'house-mate wanted' Facebook page) a few years older than me, but they're always busy with uni work and spending time with their own friends and boyfriends. I work in a little shop, but I'm the youngest and my shifts clash with anyone near my age so I haven't really met anyone on my wavelength.
My boyfriend lives a good while away, and to top it off I'm not from England so it takes me at least four hours and around £100 to go back home!
I really don't know what to do. On my days of from uni/work I just sit in my room by myself and it's making me so miserable. I've had a very difficult year with my family and having no friends to spend time with is really pushing me over the edge. Apologies for the length of this thread (and the fact there have been loads like it) but I've tried all the usual methods and I'm still so, so lonely.
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I havnt had a night out since i came here. Its really depressing to leave friends behind and then came here and no one makes an effort.
I tried joining society and i was emailing a president about a society and when i asked where do i met her to pay the fee to join up she never bothered reaplying and some of the others i emailed didnt bother replying either.
Depressing.com
Uni days certainly aint the best days of my life so far anyway
I've been in your position before, moved somewhere very very new, very very far away. Its daunting and can take some time before meeting or feeling like socialising in the new area (in fact I'm still not there)
I think you do seem to be taking steps in the right direction, and trying to get involved in things.
I think the student union and societies are best, there are plenty and some should take your fancy, then you'll be able to meet new people
http://www.thesite.org/workandstudy/studying/studentlife/makingfriendsatfreshersweek
This article may help, obviously it is directed towards freshers week, however a lot of it can apply with average uni life.
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/familyandfriends/friendships/makingnewfriends
This may be able to help also, give you some tips on what to do and how to act
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/familyandfriends/friendship
This whole section may be able to help also
Good luck.
Lots of great advice here! :yes: msrx5sw2 mentioned volunteering and just thought I'd add a link in with some more info: http://www.thesite.org/workandstudy/volunteering/volunteeringbasics
There's plenty of info here on TheSite about how you might get started volunteering and it can be another chance to meet new people and you'll also be doing something really worthwhile with your spare time which might help to make you feel more positive about things.
You mentioned you live with two lovely girls, maybe you could make a suggestion that one night a month you all make a date to hang out together, even if you just stay in and cook together?