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Hello :wave:,
Hello I have a counciller who is very annoying and harderly helps me at all which is very annoying. One day we were talking about me having suicidal though and she proper tiks me of by saying why do you not go and kill your self. Arghhhhhh! this was so very frustrating I do have suicidal thoughts she doesn't have to fukin tell me to go and kill myself and I thought she was supposed to help all she is is a pile of shit I just don't know what to fukin do.
suffer in silent
speak up and stand out
I'm so fukin confused :crying:
Hello I have a counciller who is very annoying and harderly helps me at all which is very annoying. One day we were talking about me having suicidal though and she proper tiks me of by saying why do you not go and kill your self. Arghhhhhh! this was so very frustrating I do have suicidal thoughts she doesn't have to fukin tell me to go and kill myself and I thought she was supposed to help all she is is a pile of shit I just don't know what to fukin do.
suffer in silent
speak up and stand out
I'm so fukin confused :crying:
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On the other hand, do you think she is maybe not so much suggesting but trying to get you to question yourself and explore your feelings and actions so you can better understand yourself.
Councillors have a job that can both be very helpful and very damaging at the same time. So if you do feel that there is something very wrong with the way you are receiving treatment, maybe you should maybe question her before you take any further action. It may be that the meanings behind her questions are becoming misconstrued, if so you don't want to just jump straight in making complaints before you have a full assessment of the situation.
I myself have had councillors who I have disliked for a number of reasons. The woman that first assessed me when I went for the first time locked me in a room for instance and wouldn't let me leave unless we phoned my dad right at that minute to tell him I was suicidal and self harmed. That was very traumatising for me at the time. I eventually got out though, still had to tell my dad though. The same woman told my friends that I was probably just attention seeking after they called worried after finding out about a fail suicide attempt. I feel that maybe she is someone I should have complained about .
But once I did make a complaint, in hospital they gave me a red pen to distract myself from self harming and one woman took it off of me saying that I was getting addicted to the pen?!?! So after complaining they took it further to ensure nurses knew about distractions etc in the hospital.
So sometimes putting a complaint in can also benefit others as well as yourself.
*hug* take care
I have complained about her and I just don't turn up for any of our sessions together no more she did once lock me in a empty room where I could not do anything the lady kept telling me to do think and say things that I did not want to.
She is probably right if I feel suicidal why do I not kill myself I have attempted it why not attempt it again.
You can call from a payphone.... and do you have a house phone you're allowed to use? Its free and won't show up on the phone bill. Number is 0800 1111.
Some cast are quite cool , I have to say I've never got one I just got a sling
What happened when you complained?
I think you should think about trying to get a new therapist, if she is making you avoid sessions then it cannot be helping you. Everyone deserves help and you have a right to say when enough is enough. Maybe talking to your GP or getting some other advice about how to go about changing therapists might be a good idea.
You can use a phone box a call childline for free, that might be a useful source of help and information
She is not right! Don't let her make you feel like that, in no way do you deserve to die! *hug*
Yeah, there is also Samaritans too. I've used it to email etc too
Hi *Alarna*,
First of all I'm sorry to hear that you are having such a difficult time at the moment. *hug*
I'm pretty sure that your counsellor wasn't saying that she didn't believe you or indeed telling you that you should go and kill yourself. After all asking someone a question and telling someone to do something are not the same thing.
The reason your counsellor asked you why you didn't go and kill yourself was probably for one of two reasons. One; she was either assessing your suicidal risk by enquiring if there was something specific that stops you from acting on your thoughts (family, friends etc). Or two; she was trying to get you to question your own reasons for choosing not to kill yourself by getting you to look at the things or people around you that make your life worth living.
This said if for whatever reason you feel don't 'connect' with your counsellor then you should consider asking if you can see someone else. As it's important that you feel comfortable and feel that you can trust your counsellor otherwise you won't be able to open up them.
Good luck and try to keep talking
Are you sure it was said in a nasty tone?
As purplestarfish says, getting in touch with Samaritans or Childline can help when you're feeling like there's nowhere else to turn. Take care and do keep posting *hug*
I repeat it all
shrink- why have you not killed your self yet
me- shrug shouleders
shrink- why do you not go out and kill urself tonight
me- ok wa eva
shrink- bye take care c u next week r session has come to a end
I'm sorry that it upset you... but it doesn't really sound like she was telling you to kill yourself. Where was this counsellor based? What sort of place did you visit when you went to see her?
Hope you're feeling better today - have you got in contact with ChildLine or the Samaritans yet?
And I'm feeling a lot worst because I was supposed to talk to her yesterday didn't go so she goes shit over the phone x
It sounds quite familiar to one I had through my GP. I don't know how much you know about how counsellors work, but I've been through a lot
The counsellor you're describing is using, by the sounds of it, CBT, Coginitive Behavioiral Therapy, which, basically gets you to think and answer all your own questions- so she would ask why you hadn't killed yourself/ what was stopping you etc, to try to get you to think deeper and deeper still, which is hard work, and bloody exhuasting! I'd sleep for hours after my sessions
Another form of counselling I've had is where she just said 'mm' and 'hm', and asked me questions when I went quiet, but they weren't the closed questions which are used, generally speaking, in CBT. They are much more open, so it'd be rephrased entirely differently
Different things suit different people, and I'm sure that there are many more different methods- I agree with the others, you need to find another counsellor if this one isn't working hun. I got through 3 counsellors before finding one through uni who was AMAZING- and did the 'mm' and 'hm' thing.
xx
I think you should try talking to someone who is close to you instead, like a best friend or something. Hope this helps, it probably won't, lol.
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and then the cycle just keeps going around. And its questioning why that happens, if there is any thing else you can do, breaking the chain. but yer they tend you question your actions, and make you think about why you didnt kill yourself, or what is stopping you etc and sometimes is seems abrupt or offencive but its really not.
ovbiously this type of therapy is not for everyone, but i hope this helps your understand what she is doing a bit more.
x
On the other hand, do you think she is maybe not so much suggesting but trying to get you to question yourself and explore your feelings and actions so you can better understand yourself.
Councillors have a job that can both be very helpful and very damaging at the same time. So if you do feel that there is something very wrong with the way you are receiving treatment, maybe you should maybe question her before you take any further action. It may be that the meanings behind her questions are becoming misconstrued, if so you don't want to just jump straight in making complaints before you have a full assessment of the situation.
I myself have had councillors who I have disliked for a number of reasons. The woman that first assessed me when I went for the first time locked me in a room for instance and wouldn't let me leave unless we phoned my dad right at that minute to tell him I was suicidal and self harmed. That was very traumatising for me at the time. I eventually got out though, still had to tell my dad though. The same woman told my friends that I was probably just attention seeking after they called worried after finding out about a fail suicide attempt. I feel that maybe she is someone I should have complained about .
But once I did make a complaint, in hospital they gave me a red pen to distract myself from self harming and one woman took it off of me saying that I was getting addicted to the pen?!?! So after complaining they took it further to ensure nurses knew about distractions etc in the hospital.
So sometimes putting a complaint in can also benefit others as well as yourself.
take care
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