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i had been with a guy a few months ago for 9 months and he dumped me.
we got really close and got to the point where we tell each other anything and i felt like he was probably the only person who knew that much about me. and lately after not talking for some 5 months we've started talking again, and therefore i can feel that i'm having the need to get his attention again. since then he's hooked up with a few people and i feel more alone than ever. any advice on getting past that?
we got really close and got to the point where we tell each other anything and i felt like he was probably the only person who knew that much about me. and lately after not talking for some 5 months we've started talking again, and therefore i can feel that i'm having the need to get his attention again. since then he's hooked up with a few people and i feel more alone than ever. any advice on getting past that?
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well, than throw yourself out there. Spending time with him won't help you there. It probably just reminds you more that you are alone and want someone.
Feeling lonely isn't much fun, especially after a break up, it's a big shift to get used to more of your own company again and seeing your ex hooking up with other people is probablay making you crave that bond with someone again even more.
Do you have a close friend or someone you can talk to about how you're feeling? Making time for other friends, taking up offers from people and exploring new interests too can all lead you to feel more positive about the situation you find yourself in. It's hard to lose someone you feel so at ease with, like you could tell them anything. There will be others though and maybe there's even people in your life now that you could open up to?
Take care of yourself and keep posting
i've honestly felt miserable since i've found out.
i talked to my close friend and she told me to tell him how i felt about it.
i took her advice and he's pretty much just ignored it.
i also told him i still have feelings for him, he told me to get over it.
honest to god i have no idea why i still care about him.
and now he's annoyed at me.
it's just frustrating that most of my friends are out of town for summer and won't be here for the next few weeks.
i feel like this is actually getting in the way of me doing normal things in the day, and obviously it affects my self harm.
i don't know what i should do really...