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one night stand etiqute (i can't spell)
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yeah, so last night i was out and no, nothing happened like the title, but me and a friend were having a drunk conversation about what you should do in the morning after, this was because we had both watched a progamme (can't remember what) that mentioned this, I personally think you should hug or kiss
my mate reckons u should just leg it, i think thats a bit out of order,
whats everyone elses ideas on this?
my mate reckons u should just leg it, i think thats a bit out of order,
whats everyone elses ideas on this?
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ETA: Easiest way to deal is to just leave before going to sleep or leave amazing early in the morning and pretend you have to be at work or something.
tbh, i;ve had one or 2 and i've always at least talked to them in the morning and hugged them if i don't wanna kiss them
I usually start by asking if they would like a shower then a cup of tea or coffee, then make a big fry up because they are always very hungry in the morning after a night with me. My last 1 night stand I got pregnant. that was 4 years ago we are now arranging our wedding with our daughter being flower girl.
Fairytale indeed - nice one.
I think in every case ive always stuck around for quite a while the morning after :chin: we usually just lie around in bed and chat and have a laugh, and if im lucky i get made brekkie
one guy is actually a really good friend of mine now which is nice, and i wouldnt regret getting with him one bit cuz if i hadnt i never would have met and got to know him!!
luckily ive never woken up and got kicked out straight away. i seem to big 'nice ones' who dont do that lol
the first one i ever had was with some bloke id met out... And he literally got up the next day, I got up and we were both like "well thanks... ill see ya around" neither of us were interested, we both knew it was just a one night stand but i felt a little weird afterwards. No feelings towards him, just a kinda used feeling... even though i used him too. lol
second one was with a friend, we both new it was just sex, neither of us wanted anything more, and he always cuddled me in bed in the morning, and gave me a kiss before he left each time, which was kinda nice. I didnt feel like we were both just using each other...
Third one, made me breakfast in bed, we chatted and watched tv, then I actually really did need to go out, we parted and he gave me a peck on the cheek. I think its nicer to give a hug or a kiss, or atleast stick around for a while. Ive heard stories from my friends of them waking up and the guys already left, that would upset me!!
And all the one nighters I've had, I've known the guy, even if for a few hours beforehand, so I've already started to like them as a person, so makes it worse. Sigh.
Makes me wonder how big your trophy collection is ?
lol that's my policy! I'm not really into the one night stand thing anymore, but I never got into a one night stand without making sure we both know full well what it wass - it saves the need for phoney excuses the next day, and creates some mutual respect. And I've actually made a few friends (which i still have) and one or two fuck buddies out of it (which i don't have anymore) :P
Ive been told I have quite a 'male' attitude to sex, though I don't think I like that genderisation (apologies for making up a word!)
If it was fantastic sex, I like to wake him up by running my fingers up and down his back/chest (depending on what position he's sleeping in!). Men look cute when they're sleeping, it's a nice way to be woken up, and hopefully that leads to a repetition of the night before.
If it was okay sex, but for that night only and not to be repeated, if I can't leave before he wakes up, I'm quite happy to chill out the next morning and watch TV or whatever. Unless I'm getting the serious vibe that he wants me out, of course..