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I've been in prison. More than once. I had my reasons...
Whatever conclusion you've drawn from the above is almost certainly wrong. Much the same as people on this forum with your own post, and lack of detail...
So what was it then? Is he an exceptionally gifted mime artist?
you probably dont believe me but that doesnt bother me a know what happaned and nobody ever believes me.
What is stopping you, are you worried that people will find out, or that the police won't believe you? You have a solicitor, correct? If it's something that's simply to difficult to say out loud, perhaps you could write it down and give it to them. They will have to ask you some questions after that but, once you're over that initial hurdle.
You really should tell them, because that kinda stuff really does change the picture presented to everyone. From that, it sounds like he was asking for a thump more than you were asking for his actions.
That really does change things, and it really would be in your best interests to be truthful to the police.
Just to clarify my earlier comment - I've never done time. But in a past life I did much of the IT maintenance in prisons, amongst other places.
Is a punch really any more excessive than the inappropriate touch? One was deliberate, and uninstigated. The other could quite easily be the response many people would respond with - I'm not saying they'd act on it, but it's far more understandable than an inappropriate touch...
I wouldn't sweat about it OP now that it's clearer what happened, you acted in a defensive manner.
:yes: If you don't tell the police what he did soon, then they wont believe you. They'll just think it's a lie, to defend yourself.
But if you tell them now, then them believing you is more likely.
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That's assumin a want everyone knowin that some guy was feelin me up. Like a said folk already think am one o them they'll think a was wantin it to happen
ma brief says a may get the jail so all just have to accept a may go inside
I'll be blunt, what happened to you was terrible, shouldn't happen, however unless he was being very physical with you, you had no right to smack him, you should've walked away. but you not telling what happened and using it as a defence, you've only your self to blame if you get sent down.
/Leaves thread.
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Agreed, I think if we begin focussing on semantics we're going to miss the point. However he refers to homosexuals is irrelevant, something has happened and he needs advice on how to deal with it.
And I also agree with Hellfire, unless you're willing to tell us the extent of his assault on you, we can't assist you with decent advice. If he was trying to seriously sexually assault you, you'd perhaps have grounds for self-defence. Just trying to feel you up? Maybe a shove or a push and a "fuck off and leave me alone" would be appropriate, but a serious enough assault that you've ended up in court and are looking at prison? I don't think so.
a tried that all before he shoved his hand down ma trackies and grabbed ma dick.
It's a tough one then. I think you need to tell them what happened. They may not believe you but it's worth a try.