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Made mistakes that are really getting to me what do you think
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i go to nightclubs 2 or 3 times every month nearly for about the last year and a half. there have been three occasions that are really making me question who i am.
i started dancing with this girl from behind. she really started grinding on me and as i was drunk i started touching her breasts. she never stopped me or tried to move away but kept grinding on me and eventually i touched her downstairs if you know what i mean and again she let for a while then moved my hand away at which point i stopped doing it and moved away soon after. one of my friends said i just walked to her and started touching her without any dancing but im 99 percent sure we were dancing.
another night i was with a girl i knew most of the night and she started grinding on me and i started touching he breast and she moved away and said not to then started grinding on me again and i done it again at which point she just walked away.
finally a month or so ago me and my group of friends were dancing in a circle type thing when a group of three girls started dancing in the middle of us. we were all just dancing away then i touched one of the girls ar*e and she just turned round and pushed me then walked away.
i really struggle to get on with life thinking that im a horrible person when im not really but these action may say other wise what do you think? and should i be in jail?
i started dancing with this girl from behind. she really started grinding on me and as i was drunk i started touching her breasts. she never stopped me or tried to move away but kept grinding on me and eventually i touched her downstairs if you know what i mean and again she let for a while then moved my hand away at which point i stopped doing it and moved away soon after. one of my friends said i just walked to her and started touching her without any dancing but im 99 percent sure we were dancing.
another night i was with a girl i knew most of the night and she started grinding on me and i started touching he breast and she moved away and said not to then started grinding on me again and i done it again at which point she just walked away.
finally a month or so ago me and my group of friends were dancing in a circle type thing when a group of three girls started dancing in the middle of us. we were all just dancing away then i touched one of the girls ar*e and she just turned round and pushed me then walked away.
i really struggle to get on with life thinking that im a horrible person when im not really but these action may say other wise what do you think? and should i be in jail?
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It does sound like you're misinterpreting sexual signals. Next time a girl dances with you, just dance back, consider it that dancing is all you are invited to do. If a girl grinding on you is uncomfortable for you because it's more sexual for you than non-grinding dancing, move away slightly to remove physical contact and carry on dancing.
I do a lot of inappropriate stuff myself when I am drunk and I try to constrain myself with the drinking since I can't really control myself anymore.
This could one day seriously get back to you.
do you mean what ive done could come back and get me or if i keep doing it i will get in trouble eventually?
If you keep doing it. You'll get a bad 'name', which is hardly ever washed clean, which is even worse imo then getting pounded by her boyfriend or another white knight who is just looking for a reason to start a brawl.
i agree with geneve but only do geneve's mothod if you know you can keep your hands to yourself
well i do nearly every other time im out apart from these times but once is enough to damage my life or the girls life. as i said before ive seriously cut down on what i drink but i still cant forgive myself incase i have hurt one of these girls and constantly worry about what people think of me because of this.