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Having big family probs at the mo and could do with some views on this;
Last week my sister said she has decided she doesn't want to be with her hubby anymore. He was moving out then she was and this has been ongoing since then, her not wanting to talk about it so it is hard to know the full story but at the mo they are still living together. She has only told me and mum and perhaps afew friends.
Around about the same time as her saying this she changed her relationship status on facebook to say that she is in a relationship with her best friend (female) and after her mother-in-law saw it and wasn't happy she changed it to say her relationship status is complicated.
I never know when to keep my mouth shut and told my mum about this earlier on the phone. She is now REALLY angry and upset saying how humiliating and that anyone could see it, what is she thinking, mum doesn't like this friend and now says she is no longer welcome in her house etc. Mum was mentally ill last year and although getting better she has been texting me loads tonight and has just text to say she is so upset she has taken a pill. Think she is referring to a pill she takes when she needs calming down, or a pill to help her sleep. She said she doesn't wish to see my sister anymore and is calling her names.
I thought it was just a joke on facebook but can sorta see where my mum is coming from. Do you think there is any truth in what my sis said bout seeing her friend or just a bit of fun? Please help, need to sort this out
Last week my sister said she has decided she doesn't want to be with her hubby anymore. He was moving out then she was and this has been ongoing since then, her not wanting to talk about it so it is hard to know the full story but at the mo they are still living together. She has only told me and mum and perhaps afew friends.
Around about the same time as her saying this she changed her relationship status on facebook to say that she is in a relationship with her best friend (female) and after her mother-in-law saw it and wasn't happy she changed it to say her relationship status is complicated.
I never know when to keep my mouth shut and told my mum about this earlier on the phone. She is now REALLY angry and upset saying how humiliating and that anyone could see it, what is she thinking, mum doesn't like this friend and now says she is no longer welcome in her house etc. Mum was mentally ill last year and although getting better she has been texting me loads tonight and has just text to say she is so upset she has taken a pill. Think she is referring to a pill she takes when she needs calming down, or a pill to help her sleep. She said she doesn't wish to see my sister anymore and is calling her names.
I thought it was just a joke on facebook but can sorta see where my mum is coming from. Do you think there is any truth in what my sis said bout seeing her friend or just a bit of fun? Please help, need to sort this out
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I hope you dont blame yourself, your mum probably would have found out eventually if it's all on facebook. Hopefully all this business about not seeing your sister was said in the heat of the moment. I know breakups (esp if your sis was married) can be pretty draining on the mothers too as well as the actual couple because everyone gets so riled up.
Facebook is awful for this kinda thing and I'm going to assume that your sister meant it in a harmless way to just stick two fingers up at the world really. I can understand this. But people are going to be feeling pretty sensitive right now. I hope it all settles down soon and I would just try keep out of it. Especially on the satanic site that is facebook and just be here for your sis and your fam. That's all you can really do in situations like this.
I text mum to say I don't want her and my sis falling out and she text back to say she feels sorry for my sisters husband and my nephew. My sister has been married for almost 5 years and they have been together for 10 years in total, and have a young son, so yes it is understandable that people feel sensitive. I feel sorry for mum as one minute my sis was moving in with her, then the next she wasn't but didn't bother to tell mum or update her on things. Mum said she will speak to me tomorrow, I'm not working tomorrow so might pop round and see her in the morning.
I'm just so fed up of families. I really feel like 'disappearing' with my hubby and letting people just get on with it. But nothing is that easy is it!