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Hey,
For a bit of background strory, see this thread: http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php?t=140605
Well after speaking (via text) last night it turns out that shes been funny with me since last thursday due to a conversation we had that morning. I didnt realise she was that bothered by it but apparently so.
Basically she's pretty much obsessed with this guy who doesnt like her back in that way and she spent most of the night dancing with him and trying to get his attention. All of her friends have told her to forget him and move on but we all know thats easier said than done when you like someone.
We were talking over facebook in the morning after and we ended up not so much arguing but just disagreeing somewhat because of how she pretty much just fobbed me off when i said hello to her. Sounds petty when written down but ever since ive known her whenever we've greeted each other its always been a big deal, like a massive hug, big smiles etc..but seeing as thats gone now it gets to me a bit, any it was forgotten about, then she asked me why i didnt go and say bye to her when i left (early, well, 2am-ish, club was open till about 4) and i made a bitchy comment saying something like 'i'd be surprised if you even noticed, im not (the guy she's obsessed with).
Well turns out this comment really upset her it still bugs her now....so how to make things right again. If im honest, sure i do still have some feelings for her, but more than anything i want my friend back. We were really close before, we'd talk nearly everyday about anything and everything and now we barely speak at all.
I was thinking maybe taking her some flowers this afternoon, saying sorry and saying that its stupid how we're not even really friends anymore.....good idea though? Or give her space? - im a bit worried also that if i give her too much space she might think that i dont care.
So...help?
For a bit of background strory, see this thread: http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php?t=140605
Well after speaking (via text) last night it turns out that shes been funny with me since last thursday due to a conversation we had that morning. I didnt realise she was that bothered by it but apparently so.
Basically she's pretty much obsessed with this guy who doesnt like her back in that way and she spent most of the night dancing with him and trying to get his attention. All of her friends have told her to forget him and move on but we all know thats easier said than done when you like someone.
We were talking over facebook in the morning after and we ended up not so much arguing but just disagreeing somewhat because of how she pretty much just fobbed me off when i said hello to her. Sounds petty when written down but ever since ive known her whenever we've greeted each other its always been a big deal, like a massive hug, big smiles etc..but seeing as thats gone now it gets to me a bit, any it was forgotten about, then she asked me why i didnt go and say bye to her when i left (early, well, 2am-ish, club was open till about 4) and i made a bitchy comment saying something like 'i'd be surprised if you even noticed, im not (the guy she's obsessed with).
Well turns out this comment really upset her it still bugs her now....so how to make things right again. If im honest, sure i do still have some feelings for her, but more than anything i want my friend back. We were really close before, we'd talk nearly everyday about anything and everything and now we barely speak at all.
I was thinking maybe taking her some flowers this afternoon, saying sorry and saying that its stupid how we're not even really friends anymore.....good idea though? Or give her space? - im a bit worried also that if i give her too much space she might think that i dont care.
So...help?
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this - flowers
I know for a fact we're not going to get together, for starters i wouldnt be able to handle it because I'd know she was still into the other guy, and secondly i just think that we were better as friends. It was a lot of fun teasing each other about people we'd pulled or things that happened on nights out or whatever and i miss having her around all the time