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taking the next step in the relationship...
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now, if youve read any of my other posts you already know this, you also know weve been through a lot, and you also know that hes my first real boyfriend, my first kiss. the farthest weve gone is making out. he does this thing were he literatly sticks his hand down my pants and tickles my inner thigh( i know its uber weird i dont know howw it started it just did) well like 2 weeks ago we were staying after and he tried to put his hand down my pants, i figured he was trying to tickle me and stopped him. later he said he wasnt trying to tickle me(which i dont think i have to explain what that could mean). And he asked me if i am ready to take the next step in the relationship, and i am deffinatley ready, but im still kind of freaking(seeing as how ive never done anything past making out, obviously) and i think he wants to take the next step, like behind the brick wall after school r something, and i dont think thats a good idea at all....im not sure how to...approach this. i need some words of wiisdom please. advise, stories, anything, you gguys allways seem to help.
thanks
*p.s. i didnt know wether i should post this in rlationship or sex so i just posted it here.
thanks
*p.s. i didnt know wether i should post this in rlationship or sex so i just posted it here.
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yea i know its weird i think he went somwere else to make me more comfortable with his hand any were near there, which doesnt work if hes tickling every time. i dont think its rushing it thats the problem, but that the last time he tried it was in public and anyone cud walk up, find out, and kill me(my friends would). but thanks for the advise, it does help some
oddly enough i think his biggest concern is "taking my innocence", oh and now he wants me to "plan" it. in order to do this any time soon, were gonna have to like meet up in a park or something, should i just wait till we can hang out more privatletly?
yes! do you really want your first time to be in a park or at school?!
if you are really ready to do it (which you don't really sound like you are), at least use a bed...
God, this.
I've done this, even gone further, in public (and not like somewhere remote, it was basically places we could have been seen at any time) and it is not dignified and it is not fun and seriously - don't do it.
:yes: Uh huh.
Seriously, if you love each other you can wait. A quick fubble behind a tree in a park, aint fun.
Xx
I know you say he's done it before but (that's really no indicator of aptitude), it will be better for you if you are able to either or both guide his hand with yours / tell him what feels good and waht to do.
ive masturbated, but not orgasmed. i know my body, but not what i prefer