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Hi guys I saw this thread elsewhere but it got locked because it was too old. however i just wanted to restart this thread to see what people think.
basically what i had said was this
I am a very, very quiet, and I would say I am the most patient and accepting person I know. I'm comfortable with myself and actually think I am a caring and nice person when people get to know me.
But some people think I'm weird or stupid, and as much as I tell myself not to let that get me down it sometimes does.
this issue has been on my mind lately because of some (not really nice) comments by friends.
as to how it affects my relationships.. I find that sometimes I don't get as close to people as i would like.. I like listening to people but shy away from actually disclosing much about myself, with the result that people dont really get to know the real me.
just looking for any like minded people who feel the same, or just general feedback
basically what i had said was this
I am a very, very quiet, and I would say I am the most patient and accepting person I know. I'm comfortable with myself and actually think I am a caring and nice person when people get to know me.
But some people think I'm weird or stupid, and as much as I tell myself not to let that get me down it sometimes does.
this issue has been on my mind lately because of some (not really nice) comments by friends.
as to how it affects my relationships.. I find that sometimes I don't get as close to people as i would like.. I like listening to people but shy away from actually disclosing much about myself, with the result that people dont really get to know the real me.
just looking for any like minded people who feel the same, or just general feedback
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I've been told before that I seem shy, hard-to-get, closed off, quiet. Sometimes I even feel like I must seem stupid to people just because when I'm in a strange environment with people I don't know, I don't feel as comfortable and so seem quieter.
Relationships hmm. When I've been with someone who still maintains I'm shy or quiet then they are generally a bit pants and we don't click as they obviously don't know me or can't bring me out of myself. I'm currently seeing someone who says that it's great I'm so confident and it's daft I have low self-asteem. This is someone who gets me.
I think you will find the same. I don't know the cure to be honest! I've always just made my way through life and discovering people who are on my level. It takes a while but I really value those friendships and don't give a toss how others perceive me; even if the first impression is shy, if they really want to know you they'd make the furthered effort.
It is the only the opinions of family and close friends which should matter to you. The opinions of anyone else should count for absolutely nothing. I would question the motives of those "friends" who are suddenly making such critical comments.
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Hi law, it's mainly just about getting the best response for people on the forum. Replying to an old thread means that old conversations get dragged up and it's fine to just post something new, otherwise other people might not want to respond as the main issues will have already been covered for the original poster.
You can see the good manner's guide here, along with the original registration rules.
But don't feel bad, it can just take a bit of time to get used to things