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Shy Guy Looking For Advice!
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I'm writing to see if any females out there could tell me if they find shy, quiet guys appealing as I have found that at work I can talk non-stop about professional things, but in social settings I struggle to find a way of making a conversation last after the pleasantries with people I don't know (well). In particular, if there is a girl I really like, I can suffer from a mental block and a fear of missing the oppportunity to make a good impression. Thanks.
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I think you should work on your confidence, the more you speak to people the easier it'll become. Next time you are with a group of people, why not try and start a convorsation? You don't have to say much, maybe just ask them their opinions on a certain subject? If you are in a big group, I'm sure you wont be the only one doing more listening than talking :thumb:
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But, I for one don't like in-you-face-talk-talk-talk people! So am slightly biased I guess.
I think lots of people have a natural tendency towards shyness. It's something you need to work on; labelling yourself as shy and so using that an an excuse never to talk to anyone is self-defeating. You need to push yourself, even though it's difficult. Force yourself to start a conversation with the girl you like, even though it's agony. It's the kind of problem that's only solved by practice.
Same here so your not the only one:) Although I suffer from it all the time:impissed: :mad: :banghead: :banghead:
:thumb: If you don't occasionally risk rejection to talk to a girl you really find attractive, you will never know whether you have anything in common. And, if you do find you have something in common. Presto! Shyness cured - even if the relationship doesn't go very far. The right girl will bring you out of yourself.
I seem to always think with many things that Im not confident, when infact everyone else around me thinks i am, its not me putting on a shield of confidence and blagging it, what I see as not confident is often seen as quite confident to others.
However in certain situations I just go to complete rat shit, and the lack of confidence doesnt so much harm myself, or my chances with ladies, it does however stop me from doing anything, sort of being a bit yellow belly.