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To do it or not to do it.
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Hi.
If anyone saw my post on the relationship section a few weeks ago now. Actually nearly a month then you'll already know my situation.
Well. My friend who had been texting me for ages since we left school and who I've known for six years - asked my out a few days after I wanted some adivce about whether I should be with him.
We've been going out for around a month now and I love it I really do
The only thing is when we're together we have really nice long kisses but when we stop I can tell he wants me.
And I'm not sure if I want to go that far with him yet - to actually having sex with him.
I really really really do like him. I know he's a virgin like me but I'm just scared that if we do do it and then maybe in the future we break up (hopefully not) that it'd be too hard to be friends.
Thanks.
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If anyone saw my post on the relationship section a few weeks ago now. Actually nearly a month then you'll already know my situation.
Well. My friend who had been texting me for ages since we left school and who I've known for six years - asked my out a few days after I wanted some adivce about whether I should be with him.
We've been going out for around a month now and I love it I really do
The only thing is when we're together we have really nice long kisses but when we stop I can tell he wants me.
And I'm not sure if I want to go that far with him yet - to actually having sex with him.
I really really really do like him. I know he's a virgin like me but I'm just scared that if we do do it and then maybe in the future we break up (hopefully not) that it'd be too hard to be friends.
Thanks.
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But as Big Gay points out, you'll feel exactly the same way if you break up with him, whether you have sex with him or not. Breakups are horrible regardless.
The only way to avoid that risk is never to have a relationship or love anyone, ever. And that's a price not worth paying. There's always a risk that if we go out with someone, then we split up, we'll feel sad. But it's a risk worth taking, overall.
I had a friend who I decided to make the transition to more than friends with. It ended painfully and sleeping together ruined the friendship - if we hadn't had sex, and had just been friends, we would probably still be friends now. I don't regret it though.
You could be married to someone for years and then break up with them..
We also talked about it and he didn't realise that he thought that I thought he wanted more
Thanks again xx
Been an item for just over a month now but i've known him for six years
I am currently loving life right now xx
But I don't believe in saving yourself for someone.
what for?
Youre either ready or youre not. I dont get the point of waiting for any reason other than you want to wait.
For a lot of people its not a big deal
The only regret I have about my first time was the circumstances surrounding the relationship. I don't really regret doing it or even losing it to who I lost it to (though I kind of wish I HAD lost it to someone else a few months earlier but whatever, that couldn't happen). I just regret the hurt it caused. If you're ready, you know. Implications happen whether you have sex or not. The guy I lost it to? Would still have been cheating on his girlfriend with me whether we ended up having sex that night or not, because he was manipulative as hell.
At the end of the day, it depends what you believe. If you think that it should be something big, then wait. If you dont, just go for it.
Simples