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Don't come so easily
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Hey guys
So some nice help here would be good.
I've only ever had two sexual partners really, and with my new one I take quite a long time to finish, whatever we do. I notice this with masturbation as well. (hard to finish less than 20 mins, occasionally goes so long that need to stop as it starts hurting her) I find I actually need to concentrate on it to finish rather than it just building up and happening naturally. Sometimes I get so exhausted from the physical exertion element I have to stop even though I want to carry on!
When receiving oral I can't finish and this is pretty much what in the past has got me off best (in one particular instance less than 30 seconds).
Between two sexual partners I had a 'lul' of about 2 years of relative inactivity!
With my previous sexual partner I didn't take very long (not normally longer than 5-10 minutes tbh).
I've been under a lot of stress recently and the doc is thinking of putting me on SSRIs which apparently make it all worse from what I've read!
I don't know whether I've just changed naturally as I'm older, or whether it's stress, or god forbid subconsciously it's something about the different sexual partner that's affecting me? I don't know really.
So, can anyone help with advice or experiences?
So some nice help here would be good.
I've only ever had two sexual partners really, and with my new one I take quite a long time to finish, whatever we do. I notice this with masturbation as well. (hard to finish less than 20 mins, occasionally goes so long that need to stop as it starts hurting her) I find I actually need to concentrate on it to finish rather than it just building up and happening naturally. Sometimes I get so exhausted from the physical exertion element I have to stop even though I want to carry on!
When receiving oral I can't finish and this is pretty much what in the past has got me off best (in one particular instance less than 30 seconds).
Between two sexual partners I had a 'lul' of about 2 years of relative inactivity!
With my previous sexual partner I didn't take very long (not normally longer than 5-10 minutes tbh).
I've been under a lot of stress recently and the doc is thinking of putting me on SSRIs which apparently make it all worse from what I've read!
I don't know whether I've just changed naturally as I'm older, or whether it's stress, or god forbid subconsciously it's something about the different sexual partner that's affecting me? I don't know really.
So, can anyone help with advice or experiences?
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My girlfriend doesn't notice and thinks its fantastic I can keep going for so long, but I've told her in the past I've not lasted this long and concerned it might be stress and she said not to worry lol.
I'm sure everythings fine, everyones different I guess. And, it probably could be stress... but don't worry about it. As long as you're enjoying it.. it's all good
Xx
The problem will be when you go back to "normal"
I have no idea how to speed things up though.
How are you supposed to be happy if you can't orgasm??
:chin: Haha
Xx
But it's only a potential side effect - so don't worry about it.
In fact, he is on a lot of meds and I don't think (touch wood) he has experianced any side effects. It isn't definate that you will/wont.
But, you should just enjoy spending time with your girlfriend. Think of an orgasm as a bonus
Xx
Might be helpful man