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How do I stop feeling this way?
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I don't know what to do anymore. I self harm and thought I had stopped,but deep down I knew I was kidding myself. I don't know who I am anymore and just feel so lost and scared. I've changed so much and just wanna go back to how it was before I started self harming. People are trying to help,but they don't understand and sometimes make it worse. Just need any help on how to stop feeling so down all the time and how to
stop self harming. Thanks x
stop self harming. Thanks x
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If you think that talking to your friends about the behavior is making things worse, then you should probably try and avoid the topic with them. Just like let them know that you'd rather talk about something else. If you really want to talk about it though, do seek a professional who would know more about the behavior so that you can feel like your being understood, or you can always just keep posting here.
Lastly, don't put yourself down for relapsing into self-harm. it happens to the best of us. God knows I'd want nothing more than to take up the behavior again, but... yeah. What's important is that you want to stop. And like the old saying goes, where there's a will, there's a way.
Hope this helped even just a bit.
I did think about getting professional help, but I hate opening up to people and I think that what I say sounds stupid and that they wont understand me. I do have a mentor person, who is like a family friend, I talk to her about all of it and she helps me as best she can.
Thanks for the advice, and sorry if anything of what I said sounded stupid, Im not very good with words. x
Sounds like a tough time for you at the moment. But as for being bad with words - well you seem very articulate to me!
Really glad you have a mentor that you can talk to about this stuff - it might be a good time to tell her honestly what's going on as it sounds like you trust her not to judge you and she knows about your situation.
Perhaps getting the chance to talk to someone about what's underneath the feelings of self harming (check out our pages for more info) and looking at other strategies to help lift your mood would be helpful. Can your mentor help with this sort of thing? Professionals are there to listen and not to judge you when things get tough remember
Take care :wave:
Lots of people self injure and it isn't generally a reason to section someone.
If you're worried about what/ who a professional might tell you could always ask them - everyone has a code of confidentiality that they follow and will be able to explain it to you so you can decide if you want to share your story with them and get their help.
Have you had some bad experiences with professionals before? We're not all monsters you know
Perhaps other users can share their experiences to help alleviate your fears.
Take care :wave:
Talking with a professional can really put things into perspective and help you see what really is the reason you're feeling the way you're feeling. Am not really a professional where I come from, but some of my friends and people who have been referred to me by friends always tell me that getting it all off of their chests was actually a big relief. It's like because they were able to say what they weren't able to tell anyone in the past, they feel like they can breathe better. I'm not saying bare your heart and soul to the first person you meet, am just saying that seeking out a professional will most likely have its benefits. Also, one of the things that therapy really helps you with is to give you a different perspective with your problem or issue. There are times that because you're so deep into the problem, it's difficult to look at it in any other way. Having someone trained to look at problems in a specific way might be able to help you tackle your issues in many different ways.
Though we're saying that it would be good for you to seek out a professional, at the end of the day, it's still really your choice. I don't think anyone here is forcing you to do something that you may not be ready for or even want to do. We're just saying that, it would most likely be a good thing that would hopefully make you feel better.