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He cried in my arms :(
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Last night my boyfriend and I had an amazing night. I cooked tea and we fooled around in my room. We lay together watching TV and we both fell asleep. I woke to find the time at almost 11, when my boyfriend should have been heading home. I woke him up and tried to get him to move so we could go downstairs. He woke quick enough and seemed ok. I went to the bathroom and came back to find him sobbing in my room. I asked what was wrong but he just took my hand and hugged me. It kills me to see him cry like that. He kept saying over and over again that he didnt want to go. I told him just as many times that I never wanted him to go. I know this may seem quite cute that he didnt want to go. But it has never been like this in the past, ok its a stuggle to let each other go, but he NEVER cries in front of me. He always told me he had to be strong. It really upset me to have him holding onto me so tightly and shaking with tears. I want to ask him if everything is ok at home as his family often have disputes. But I'm scared. I love him so much and it honestly breaks my heart to see him cry. He is my world and I feel useless and that I cant help him 
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Yeah he has suffered from self harming etc in the past and his family situation isnt always the best.
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Young men prone to depression can be particularly at risk cause there's this culture that they should be 'hard' and not emotional, so they bottle it all up. At the moment it's probably enough for him knowing that you care, and feeling safe with you. If he's not ready to talk about it, he's not ready. He might open up in time. I'd say you're doing something just by the act of being there.
I wouldn't push him to talk about anything he doesn't want to. Just let him know that you're there for him and that he doesn't need to hide anything from you and leave the rest to him
or sounds like we don't know the whole story..muppet.
Anyway, it obviously sounds like somethings bothering him so like kaff said, dont pressure him into telling you and just let him know that you're there. further to that maybe invite him over more and stuff, take his mind off whatever's happening and in turn he might tell you. alternatively, he could just be feeling emotional. everyone has bad days/weeks and just need people like you to be there for him
was there any need, seriously?
But its okay young and broken! talk to him about it, if there is some problems at home, it will help your boyfriend knowing he can talk to you and feel safe when hes with you. You dont have to respond with advice....i know when im feeling down about situations my boyfriend makes me feel so much better just listening to me, and telling me everything will be fine.
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Over emotional? Just because we have some cultural thing going on which somehow means men are supposed to keep better control of their emotions than women, maintaining the stiff upper lip, doesn’t mean its right. Correct me if I’m wrong, but maybe you wouldn’t have said this if we were talking about a women/girl. And even if that was the case, how was your comment helpful in ANY way?
Anyway… sorry young_and_broken. You sound like you’re doing a great job, and just being there would have helped. Also, I’m sure he cares a lot about you, but he might find it easier to talk to someone he doesn’t know, perhaps you could help by letting him know about organisations such as the Samaritans? Even if it just means dropping him an email with the number.
All the best, and remember to take care of yourself as well.
I'm sure he's a nice lad really.
Nice one, dick.
Good luck to you both x
What? He isn't allowed to miss his girlfriend? :rolleyes:
Maybe they wont see each other the next day. I've just said goodbye to some friends, one of which I'll see tomorrow anyway, and I'm upset they have to go home.
I think I'll do as suggested and just let him know I'm there and always will be if he needs me. He is quite possibly the best thing to ever happen to me so his happiness means a lot to me.
He is an emotional guy as he likes to show his feelings, but I found out through a very close friend that my boyfriend doesnt like upsetting me by crying in front of me. This is why this thread was created as for him to cry, something must surely be wrong?
:rolleyes: Jesus...
Is there something wrong with not wanting to leave your girlfriend?? Or are you just cold hearted?
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its not about falling asleep with his girlfriend, (if im not mistaken) shes already said there could be problems at home with his family, which can be really upsetting for some people
There are boundaries however. What is the next step? threaten to self-mutilate or jump off the roof if you make him leave? Being sad about it is one thing, being over the top emotional is another. If my g/f was sobbing, because it's time for me/her to leave it would stress me the fuck out.
did you?