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Hey, anyone got any tips?
I'm beginning to struggle again, yesterday I think I almost broke down. I did nothing the whole day and felt like I wasn't really "there" like I wasn't me if that makes sense and I didn't really care about anything despite the fact that I had an exam today, I just didn't even revise really. I'm beginning to wonder what the point is again, and why no one seems to be there for me, as a friend. I think that's partly my fault for being so shy though too.
Part of me wants to be happy and outgoing and to make an effort. Most of me doesn't care, I guess I feel like I'm stuck in a rut
I'm beginning to struggle again, yesterday I think I almost broke down. I did nothing the whole day and felt like I wasn't really "there" like I wasn't me if that makes sense and I didn't really care about anything despite the fact that I had an exam today, I just didn't even revise really. I'm beginning to wonder what the point is again, and why no one seems to be there for me, as a friend. I think that's partly my fault for being so shy though too.
Part of me wants to be happy and outgoing and to make an effort. Most of me doesn't care, I guess I feel like I'm stuck in a rut
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Sorry you're feeling like this again, it must be so disheartening. I would guess that you've read all of the relevant factsheets on TheSite about wellbeing?
There are some tips here or here to give you some ideas; hopefully you can think creatively to get yourself out of this state of mind. I think it's all about getting yourself moving, either physically or mentally. Just take it slowly and set yourself little aims at first if you're finding it hard to be motivated. Then later you might even feel like socialising again...
How have you been today? Better I hope?
sometimes i'll just go through a whole day not feeling 'with it' or able to concentrate on anything. Sometimes i'll sit and cry for most of the day without really fully knowing why.
You just have to focus on the good days. My trick is to take my camera everywhere I go, and to everything I do. If im having a down day (which is quite often) where I just feel a total emotional mess, and that my life is rubbish, then I look at the photos, and remember how I felt on those days. It reminds me that I can have fun, and even if I still feel miserable that day, it gives me hope that there will be more days and times like that, and accept that I'm just having a bad day, but there will be more good days to come.
Thanks for those two links Soph, I have indeed looked at the thesite pages, but not seen the others before. looks like they may help a little.
Thats also good advice Kirsty, thanks, I do like taking photo's so plenty to look though. I'm trying to look foward to later in the year as I am hopefully off to Canada, but thats a long way away and will be stressful to organise
guess i need to take small steps, rather than looking at the bigger picture?
The bigger picture can send even the most grounded person into a spin!
Good luck and keep posting
hmmm yeah but then when I look at the small steps then I relise how stuck in a rut I am. Everything's the same each day, with pressure, loneliness and unhappiness
(That's just one philosophy though, and it sounds like maybe you're doing more than enough thinking already!)
Organising Canada could be a good thing to practice on. What a cool thing to look forward to!