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Hey
I started looking on this website for help and advice and it has been really helpful.
I self harm, cut, and have been now for four months. I do it on my arms, I hide them quite well, although some people have began to notice them. A few of my close friends know, but they get frustrated about it. My parents dont know and im worried about them finding out, especially as its coming up to the summer, and i usually wear short sleeves. If anyone has any advice on how to stop I would really appreciate it because i have tried before and failed. I dont want to go and see a consellor because im a shy person and i dont think i would feel comfortable about telling them everything.
I dont know were to turn to anymore and feel so lost
I started looking on this website for help and advice and it has been really helpful.
I self harm, cut, and have been now for four months. I do it on my arms, I hide them quite well, although some people have began to notice them. A few of my close friends know, but they get frustrated about it. My parents dont know and im worried about them finding out, especially as its coming up to the summer, and i usually wear short sleeves. If anyone has any advice on how to stop I would really appreciate it because i have tried before and failed. I dont want to go and see a consellor because im a shy person and i dont think i would feel comfortable about telling them everything.
I dont know were to turn to anymore and feel so lost
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Thank you again x
Are there certain times of day when you cut, for instance in the evening when you are alone in your room? If so, why not try to find things to do with that time where you are in company, perhaps sitting with a family member while they watch tv, or taking the dog for a walk or something.
buy a guitar, learn a few chords, write your thoughts down you know what happens when you put those to together..note books a good idea, im a paper back writer and my room is a tip for lyrics
Yeah lots of people said that writing lyrics was good as you can express yourself usign words. Thank you for all your advice, its proving really helpful just to know that there is someone that I can talk to about it.
You could try writing songs or poems?
Rubixs cube?
Elastic band?
Ice Cubes?
Tooth brush?
Reading a book - tht helped me
Counting every minute, and every minute u dnt do it is another minute you are winning
Hope it helps
Love you babes x
btw did you know wht i meant by elastic bands and ice cubes?
Yeaaah
Hope They work for youu (:
Hope your doing ok baby x
Then watch the first part of a film, or TV programme, or read, or something absorbing.
After 15 minutes, you can either SH, or say, 'another 15 minutes, and then I can.'
The point is, either you get so absorbed by what you are doing, that you forget for a little while, or you just have the will power to carry on saying 15minutes more throughout the whole night.
And if you end up SHing, at least you know you were allowed to do it after those 15 minutes, so that's better than just giving in.
I like the suggestion two above
Worth a try!
Just remember, we all love you and are here
Your amazing, believe it or not.
This sounds good, i would try tht, i will try tht
Remember we all love you babe x
Can work apparently but it takes a long time?
Thts wht i heard anyway,
ive tried it and it didnt work but i didnt try it for long enough i dnt think
Massaging helps for temporary hiding but i dno how to fade them faster
Would be helpful to know tho if anyone knows?
If you only get a little thing of bio oil, it's not too expensive, about £5 if I remember rightly. YOu don't need too much so it lasts for EVER.
But it isn't really that great, I thinkit's the massage and the miosturizing effect that do most of it, but if you rub any kind of intensive moisturizer on with quite hard massage it'll do about the same, I think.
xx
Thanks for the replies and advice. Im doing ok. I cut last night and this morning, 5 times.They are a bit sore and have started doing them in different places as I dont have much room left on my under arm. Thanks babe x
Just keep trying,
thats all anyone can ask you to do
Just do your best,
we're here for you