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SO worried about a friend
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I think one of my friend's may be depressed but im not sure and i dont want to do anything until i am
Also, she's being bullied but is scared to do anything about it, and i have no experience in either being bullied or helping people who are and i dont want to talk to an adult without her knowing coz she trusted me and im about the only person she'll talk to and im scared if she closes up the she'll start to s/h again:( PLEASE can someone give me advice?
xxx
Also, she's being bullied but is scared to do anything about it, and i have no experience in either being bullied or helping people who are and i dont want to talk to an adult without her knowing coz she trusted me and im about the only person she'll talk to and im scared if she closes up the she'll start to s/h again:( PLEASE can someone give me advice?xxx
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Whilst she may not appreciate you talking to an adult about the bullying, you really do need to. Find someone you can talk to in confidence and explain to them what you have said to us. Other than that be there for her, tell her how great she is and try to make her feel good about herself...
she didnt do anything this time
but what about next time
i promised her id help...i have to stop this for her...
and im scared
really scared
Sorry to hear that you friend is going through a tough time at the moment and understandably you are very worried about her.
Have you tried asking you friend if maybe she could talk to an adult about the bullying ? You could maybe suggest talking to someone together about the problems she is having if she is apprehensive about doing it alone, offer her your support of which im sure you will.
I hope this has been helpful.
Keep posting and let us know how you get on.
B:wave:
I ended up having to open up to a friend who about it, felt like such a bitch in doing so but she said it was OK and stuff...
Im gonna go talk to an adult, just dont want to get things wrong or anything, and i dunno if my friend really trusts any adult, so im just going to have to go to one i trust.
But im so worried, guess some of the stuff she's been saying has touched a really raw nerve with me and its bringing stuff back and i can feel her despair, but i also know now what i put the person i opened upto through and i hate myself for that.
Just hope it all works out:(
xxx
so sorry to hear that your friend is getting bullied......well done for going and speaking to an adult - that is the best thing to do.....i had to do it for a friend when i was younger who was cutting deeply - i felt horrible for doing it but she is so much better off now.
it will work out in the end but you know it does take time.
xx
let us know how ur getting on
Had to watch her selfharm earlier tho, problem is, i give her so much advice and spend so much time with her, even outside in the freezing cold when she refuses to come in, and she doesnt appear to follow it. and then makes a fuss about trivial little things.
Im trying so hard to put up with it and be there because ive done really similar things. but its getting me down - just coming out the end of my own problems and now im beign thrown into hers, and its dragging me down again - not time to eat, bad dreams, panic attacks, s/h...
Okay...selfish moan over, im just tired and really down
xxx
it is fantastic to look after your friend but you need to look after yourself too. is there anyone you can talk to about your worries? obviously not mentioning her name - but it may make u feel bta
xx
your not selfish at all. xx *hugs
Well, she was really down on monday. Until after the last exam, which was writing. One of the writing topics was "Alone". I knew she would either take it, or breakdown because of it.
She took it, and wrote about what had happened over the weekend. And came out the exam at her most hpyer, like everything was good and was all fine.
And has been like that ever since, making a big deal out of little things, but so hyper, clinging to me like a limpet.
I want her to be happy, but i dont know now if i have just made such a big deal out of nothing. because she scared me, and i had to bring other people in, another friend, a teacher, simply because i was scared she would do something because i thought it was all a big deal. and now its like its not. and im worried that she wont do anything about it...until the next time comes, and the next. i would really like her to see a professional, simply because i think if she doesnt want to get like this again she has to talk to someone who knows what theyre doing.
ive put so much in and its being thrown back in my face, she doesnt seem to realise just how big an impact this has had on me. i want to help her sort out her problems but i want to know if she actually has problems that need sorting.
thanks for the support everyone, im getting some from my friends, but tbh, i really need lots atm
xxx
How are you?
It sounds like she needed to get things out in an exam however, not sure if it was a good option to do an exam question on it. You did the right thing to get other people involved and you shouldn't feel wrong about that!! Have you spoken to the teacher again about this? maybe they can help you????
you will be ok i promise.
let me know how u get on.
xx
Yeah, it will be interesting when the teacher comes to marking it... Ive not been back to the teacher, feel a bit of a fool in some ways, now that its nothing, but i know i should go back to her.
Well, i will keep trying!
xxx