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drifting apart.......
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my boyfriend and i have been together for 4 years and bought a house together 2 1/2 years ago. during the "honeymoon period" for the first two years everything was perfect and we were practically joined at the hip. i didnt expect the relationship to be like that forever, and i made it very clear that i wanted him to spend time with his mates and that i didnt expect him to by my side 24/7, but now my boyfriend is spending most of his time at his mate's house and i rarely see him. my main concern is that he smokes a lot of cannabis, but as he knows i don't like him doing it, he doesn't smoke near the house. i am worried that is the reason why he is spending so much time there, either that or he has gone off me! when i try to talk to him about it he shows no interest and seems to be more comfortable when we're not speaking. his only defence was i hog the tv. what the hell is going on, and can we salvage our relationship. in the past 2 years we have become more and more distant. i am particularly interested in responses from lads. thanks dani.
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Good luck. x
he probably isnt interested that you dont like him smoking it as it is causing him no problems apart from you not liking it, which in effect will create a big problem in his mind and i guess the reason he dont want to talk about it is because it is true, as no doubt you are a huge part of his life... i i were you, i'd try give him a bit of slack and pretend you dont care or be blunt and find someone who doesnt smoke weed.
To be honest i'm not sure this would work, as i don't think he's addicted to it, it's more of a social thing, but will speak to him about this and see how he reacts, thanks.
ha ha! i think i preferred your previous post bad boy
after we had both had chance to calm down he told me that he had not tried to patch things up immediately as he wanted me to calm down - no point in tried to talk when we're both angry as we won't get anywhere, which is probably one of the wisest things i've ever heard him say, so i appreciated that afterwards. we are currently ok, and he has tried to make an effort to spend more time with me, but i am worried this consistently recurring argument will rear it's ugly head in the near future, so i am still looking for ways to get over this hurdle. thanks for your advice, keep it coming and i will try everything out x
Very very few people become addicted to weed.
How about you try doing something you like with your mates?
Round at their places ...without him.
He might just understand how you feel then.