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i really have no idea what to do..
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ok, so. i have two boyfriends. i know it sounds terrible.
basically i was with a guy who lived 94 miles away named rich, we were together 7 months and i completely fell for him. but it got to the point when i was only seeing him once in like two weeks. so we broke up.
then i met mike. genuine, trustworthy and all round decent guy. i knew i was still in love with rich but when mike asked me out i said yes because i thought it would help me move on. me and mike have been together just over a month now.
so the problem started when me and rich started talking again, pretty much everyday, it was like how it used to be.. like we were still together, last night he told me he still loves me and he wants me back. and i said yes.
i know im being stupid because i know nothing is going to be different, there is still 94 miles between us, thats never going to change. i just wish i knew why i put myself through these situations where im going to get hurt. and as for mike, i really dont want to break up with him.. we could have something amazing, i just know it.
i genuinely thought that me and rich were going to go the whole way, when he came down for long weekends, i could see myself living with him, having his kids. i do still love him but im being so unrealistic.
i guess i just need someone to shout at me and tell me to stop being such an idiot.
basically i was with a guy who lived 94 miles away named rich, we were together 7 months and i completely fell for him. but it got to the point when i was only seeing him once in like two weeks. so we broke up.
then i met mike. genuine, trustworthy and all round decent guy. i knew i was still in love with rich but when mike asked me out i said yes because i thought it would help me move on. me and mike have been together just over a month now.
so the problem started when me and rich started talking again, pretty much everyday, it was like how it used to be.. like we were still together, last night he told me he still loves me and he wants me back. and i said yes.
i know im being stupid because i know nothing is going to be different, there is still 94 miles between us, thats never going to change. i just wish i knew why i put myself through these situations where im going to get hurt. and as for mike, i really dont want to break up with him.. we could have something amazing, i just know it.
i genuinely thought that me and rich were going to go the whole way, when he came down for long weekends, i could see myself living with him, having his kids. i do still love him but im being so unrealistic.
i guess i just need someone to shout at me and tell me to stop being such an idiot.
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If mike knows anything about the sistuation with rich maybe you could talk to him and explain that you can't give 100% of yourself right now. There are other trustworthy guys that you'll meet in the future so I don't think you need to stay with mike to have a good, reliable relationship. Maybe you should concentrate more on yourself for now, but I think the important thing is not to make a decision you'll torture yourself with by constantly asking what if?
i dont think u r an idiot but i think u r being slightly foolish..
u risk losing the both of them by cheating and lying. it shows one of two things i think. either you dont think much of mike else u wouldnt even consider going back to rich.(its not like he moved any closer or anything at all changed) ... or you think so much of rich that you cant possibly move on until you get together properly or it goes so horribly wrong that you couldnt even think about seeing him again. either way i would consider the feelings of those men you "love" because finding out that someone your with is with someone else hurts...alot!