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Living on your own?
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Hey guys. I'm not sure if this goes in here or in Home, Law and Money so mods please feel free to move...
...anyway basically I wanted to know whether any of you live on your own and if so how you find it? Since splitting up with my boyfriend (who I share a rented flat with) I've been looking at houseshares again but am starting to feel a bit despondent about it and wondering if it's really what I want to do. I could probably afford a small rented flat on my own but am just not sure what it'd be like with only my own company I quite like my own space and always quite liked having this flat to myself, but I'm not sure what it'd be like for weeks and months...anyway, I'd be interested to hear from anyone else who lives alone and can pass on any pros and cons
...anyway basically I wanted to know whether any of you live on your own and if so how you find it? Since splitting up with my boyfriend (who I share a rented flat with) I've been looking at houseshares again but am starting to feel a bit despondent about it and wondering if it's really what I want to do. I could probably afford a small rented flat on my own but am just not sure what it'd be like with only my own company I quite like my own space and always quite liked having this flat to myself, but I'm not sure what it'd be like for weeks and months...anyway, I'd be interested to hear from anyone else who lives alone and can pass on any pros and cons
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well, theres an easy way to solve that problem, freeze any extra you've made or eat it the next day. i live with my boyfriend and most of the meals i make feed 4 people. we usually spread it out over two days but sometimes freeze the extra portions too if we don't fancy it two days in a row
back on topic, i'd personally HATE living on my own. i live with my boyfriend and have done for errr 8 months now. i get REALLY lonely when he isn't here. i enjoy having some time to myself for a while but then get bored, haha i had the same problem before i moved in with him though. i got lonely. i lived with another girl and we didn't get on that great and she wasn't in that often anyway. i spent most of my time on my own and i hated it.
ANYWAY, i haven't ever lived on my own but i kinda did where i lived before i moved in with the bloke because i was always on my own there. i hated it.
you've gotta weigh up the pros and cons. do you reckon you'd be ok coming home to an empty flat every night?
Even so, whether or not you will feel lonely depends a lot on your social life. If you are a gregarious person, who enjoys going out with friends, there is no reason to be lonely. But if you are already a bit of a loner, may be having just moved into an area, without too many pre-existing friends, I would be cautious about setting up on your own.
Anyway, let's assume that you will soon find another boyfriend. At least living on your own, you will not need to worry about what your flatmates think of him LOL!
why do you smiley-quote your own post?
personally i think although i love the idea of living alone i think i'd feel the same! i think id end up talking to myself all the time! i have lived away from home a fair few times but always with a big group of people so i always had someone to chat to. is your flat that you shared with your boyf one bedroomed? (sorry if i missed that). if not maybe you could get someone in to share your flat with you?
You sound as though you'd be ok living on your own though - if you've got friends around and things to do in the evening, I think you'd be fine and wouldn't get too lonely!
I haven't lived on my own although the person I live with sometimes works lots of late shifts which means I have evenings on my own and it's fine. Nice to be able to cook what I want, watch what I want on TV etc and if I don't want to be on my own I just invite one of my friends round.
Even living with one other person can be stressful I find, esp when they have different standards of cleanliness and stuff. Myabe try it for a bit - as you said, you've got someone you could share with next year so it wouldnt be forever.