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I agree. There is no argument, except a religious one.
Again, I agree - but would you extend your not-a-choice position to heterosexuality as well? Or is homosexuality the only "natural" option?
I not sure I quite understand what you are saying - but, if I do, then I would say that heterosexuality is not a choice either. A singular outcome is not the only result for 'choice'.
:yes: I don't think you can choose your sexuality. I think you are born who you are, but you might not find out until later in life.
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Of course, then there's cultural pressure. Gay and bi men pretending to be straight and straight girls pretending to be bi, but you really can't change what you are, no matter what you would like to be.
Personally, I think from the day you are born your sexuality is "chosen" if you will. But I think some people never except it, or don't discover it. Because, it is quite possible that you could be Gay/Bi/Pan and never know as you don't wish to try anything with the other sex.
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We can all change our sexuality at any point during our lives. Some decide to do it the way The Convincer said - by faking it, experimenting without having no real attraction. Whilst others are naturally influenced by hormones and activity in the brain.
We'll probably never know the why or how it comes about (100% that is). The only reason why being straight isn't questioned upon is because that's the "natural" order of things in order to conceive a child. So to give being gay it's meaning it must be a choice, unnatural and the smite of god.
But I doubt people are straight when the suns out and gay when it rains, or when the temperature drops below 12C.
Well i dont think that they actually turn bisexual in prison, to my mind at least, its more about intimidation and being the alpha male, but i've never been in prison so wouldnt know
and i wasn't refering to those sorts of environmental factors either, but environmental factors is admittedly a vague term
As a matter of interest, what do you put your homosexuality down to?
I can't have it any other way. I didn't wake up one morning and go "you know what, maybe I'll fancy a girl today."
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I never chose to be gay either, but I most certainly changed faster than what seems to be the norm. I noticed a change in my sexuality within a few days, it literally was a transition from one to the other. I can't explain the why it was like that, but it was. It just took years and years for my overall attraction to any woman to fade away (And of course accept it). I still find the odd woman attractive but nowhere near as I find men.
I think part of your experience was largely down to social conditioning. When you are young, you learn and accept by example that a heterosexual lifestyle is the 'norm' and because its the norm, you happily go along with your childhood male friends in 'fancying' girls without giving it much thought.
However, after puberty, which is when sexual awakening usually starts to be important to the individual, those feelings for the same sex that you previously ignored because you didn't understand, come more to the forefront, even though you are still conditioned to the fact that you are supposed to fancy women.
Its only as time passes and on realising that these feelings for the same sex remain, do you then start to really question your sexuality. For some people, they fight this and it can drag on and on, often with years of unhappiness.
Because of the more accepting age in which we are in, I would imagine that you probably come from a pretty supportive family so that your decision to pursue your true sexuality was an easier decision to make - and one that you could make quite promptly.
As an aside, Wikipedia has quite an interesting article on the biological differences in gay men and lesbians : http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gay_gene
While I accept that many of these points may still need further investigation and proof, it does indicate that perhaps there is something more going on inside us than meets the eye which overwrites any accusations that people 'choose' to be gay or are the sole outcome of their environment.
Why did you come to that conclusion?
Oh, it's hard to explain. But I don't like being female, I hate it- but I wouldn't want to be a "typical" male. I've just always felt like I'm different... until I started to hang out with homosexual boys... then I fitted in. I've always been attracted to a lot of them, but not in the way I am to people I date- it's kinda hard to explain...
But, yeah, ever since I was about 11 (ssooo a year and a half ish) I've wanted to be a gay man.
It sucks. Of all the lifestyles I could want to lead... Probably one of the only ones I can't have.
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Every body has different finger prints...
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But like, a different sort. I don't know, it was a few years ago and just came up when we were studying genetics.
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I've never read or can find any reference to that. Sounds unlikely.
Awwwwwwwwww! I wanna be your gay friend!