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Hi,
to cut a rather long story i broke up with my ex-boyfriend about 8 months ago, and we've only spoken once since.
He was a genuinley lovely guy but at 18 I couldn't deal with being the only person he saw/having to be with him all the time etc.
If we had met 5 years down the line we would have been made for each other, but for me it was too much too young.
We had a fantastic relationship but i couldnt deal with the pressure of a 'grown up' relationship.
We're both a lot happier in new relationships now (a few of my mates are friends with his new girlfriend)
I've been in and out of hospital recently and currently seeing a gynaecologist, and have been taken to a&e numerous times. this started just before we broke up so he knows the basics but not how much this problem has develpoed. BUT now my problem is that I need to ask him to have a total sexual health check up. I'm totally STI clear and always have been, however the specialist is convinced there is some kind of bacterial problem so i need to get the 2 people ive slept with since the problem started to be checked out to see if they have any ph inbalances or bacterial problems they could have passed on (not nesecarily STI's)
How do i do this? his new girlfriend hates me because shes 'jealous of the closness we had' but i know hes really happy with her and I dont want to cause any problems with them.
Also, do i explain the whole story or just ask him to do it?
what if he says no?
arghhh! I know i need to do it, but im so nervouse about talking to him...
to cut a rather long story i broke up with my ex-boyfriend about 8 months ago, and we've only spoken once since.
He was a genuinley lovely guy but at 18 I couldn't deal with being the only person he saw/having to be with him all the time etc.
If we had met 5 years down the line we would have been made for each other, but for me it was too much too young.
We had a fantastic relationship but i couldnt deal with the pressure of a 'grown up' relationship.
We're both a lot happier in new relationships now (a few of my mates are friends with his new girlfriend)
I've been in and out of hospital recently and currently seeing a gynaecologist, and have been taken to a&e numerous times. this started just before we broke up so he knows the basics but not how much this problem has develpoed. BUT now my problem is that I need to ask him to have a total sexual health check up. I'm totally STI clear and always have been, however the specialist is convinced there is some kind of bacterial problem so i need to get the 2 people ive slept with since the problem started to be checked out to see if they have any ph inbalances or bacterial problems they could have passed on (not nesecarily STI's)
How do i do this? his new girlfriend hates me because shes 'jealous of the closness we had' but i know hes really happy with her and I dont want to cause any problems with them.
Also, do i explain the whole story or just ask him to do it?
what if he says no?
arghhh! I know i need to do it, but im so nervouse about talking to him...
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You shouldn't be worried simply due to her being jealous!...
You could always try explaining it to his girlfriend if you like and see how she reacts about it..
thanks.
I think I'm just going to have to suck it up and get on with it.
It needs to be done
You seem to have split amicably and he doesn't sound inconsiderate, so it would be churlish of him to say no. Don't involve the new gf in this and don't initiate talking to her - this is between you and your ex bf to discuss. He will have to deal with any issues she's got about it by talking to her/setting it straight.
Good luck with it, I hope your health gets better
I think a quick short explanation with him is best.
and leaving him to get on with his gf if theres any issues there
thanksss