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My husband's got to be cheating
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Ok, this is tough so bear with me. I'm pretty sure there's no room for doubt.
Someone kept clearing the history in our internet browser. At first I was worried my 9 year old son had started looking at pornography and trying to cover his tracks. Anyway, following a slip-up I found somebody (it just has to be my husband) has been browsing around an illicit encounters website
And quite a lot in the space of about 2 hours too by the looks of it. I think there are no 2 ways of interpreting this. What do I do? I have 2 beautiful kids with this man, and I have noticed nothing in his behavior. No extra hours at the office, he's not distant, nothing has changed. I'm shocked at his apparent proficiency in deceit, and I'm so unbelievably hurt but have chosen to suppress showing it until I have an idea of what to do.
Please, can anyone offer some experience? It's so humiliating.
Someone kept clearing the history in our internet browser. At first I was worried my 9 year old son had started looking at pornography and trying to cover his tracks. Anyway, following a slip-up I found somebody (it just has to be my husband) has been browsing around an illicit encounters website
And quite a lot in the space of about 2 hours too by the looks of it. I think there are no 2 ways of interpreting this. What do I do? I have 2 beautiful kids with this man, and I have noticed nothing in his behavior. No extra hours at the office, he's not distant, nothing has changed. I'm shocked at his apparent proficiency in deceit, and I'm so unbelievably hurt but have chosen to suppress showing it until I have an idea of what to do.
Please, can anyone offer some experience? It's so humiliating.
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Best bet would be to ask him.
As you indicate, it seems that he hasn't cheated on you yet.
Like anything, communication is the best way forward. Because you found the link quite innocently (i.e. you weren't snooping on him), you are entitled to challenge him directly about it.
Don't make any hasty decisions until after you have spoken to him about this. It may well be that he got to the site through innocent means - but if he is unhappy and considering seeking his thrills elsewhere, now is the time to talk about it and find out how the relationship can be worked on to improve it for both of you.
I was thinking that, yes.
No, I'm removing the link. If this thread is genuine then I'm sure there won't be a problem with that.
P.S. I think this query is real because I've googled one of her sentences and it has only come up here on Thesite.
If it's a porn site - Well he's having a wank over some porn. Looking at porn doesn't make someone a cheat. Fucking someone behind your back makes them a cheat. If you have issues with him watching porn then sit down and talk about it.
If it's a dating site - Then there is a 'possibility' he 'may' have cheated on you. Please note the 2 words possibility and may. Going on a dating site doesn't make someone a cheat. Fucking someone behind your back makes them a cheat.
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Apart from you, him and the 9 year old, does anyone have access to the computer?
It was a dating website specifically for married partners looking for extra marital relationships.
Although having that in a browser history would seem to be indicative of that kind of behaviour, it's not proof, and so the only way to really get to the bottom of it is to talk to to your Husband.
if he's lookin at porn then maybe he wont more sex and if he's not then u just need to talk ask him wot it is and if h dosnt look at u when he's tellin u then he's liein sorry:)