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Hey, was wandering if someone could give me some advice, im reallllly really worried. Im 21, im in uni and i think i mite be pregnant. The last time i had sex with my boyfriend was the 13th of april. Then, i got my period on the the 20th of april and it lasted a week. I was taking the pill, but there were a few days when i wasnt really taking it properly around the time we had sex. Since then, me and my boyfriend had been having masssive arguments and i ended thing with him, so i cant talk to him about this. Its now the 21st of may and i havnt had my period.
I cant talk to anyone in my family about it either bcoz they didnt know we were sleeping together and if my mum or dad found out they would literally disown me...because sex b4 marriage is frowned upon in our religion. For the last few weeks i have been feeling quite sick and i have been really really bloated. Thtas the only changes ive noticed.
I dont know know why, but i just keep worrying that im pregnant. If i was the only option would be to have an abortion. I feel terrible saying that but i could never EVER tell anyone. I just feel so alone. I dont know wot to do. I mean could i be pregnant if i had my period a week after sex?
Help!:(
I cant talk to anyone in my family about it either bcoz they didnt know we were sleeping together and if my mum or dad found out they would literally disown me...because sex b4 marriage is frowned upon in our religion. For the last few weeks i have been feeling quite sick and i have been really really bloated. Thtas the only changes ive noticed.
I dont know know why, but i just keep worrying that im pregnant. If i was the only option would be to have an abortion. I feel terrible saying that but i could never EVER tell anyone. I just feel so alone. I dont know wot to do. I mean could i be pregnant if i had my period a week after sex?
Help!:(
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And its common to miss a period while on the pill...if you miss it twice in a row, get your self checked out.
And its not normal for you to not get a period for a while after stopping taking the pill.
But she has a underage daughter who has a kid now herself and she still accepts that.
Make a pregnancy test and if you are pregnant talk to your parents about you. If they are so uber-religious that they are going to stone your for it, then it's time to cut the umbilical cord, because they are stupid. But nobody is a saint, and there is still confession, so god will turn a blind eye. They will most probably support you in that matter.
Your best option here is to do a test and put your mind at rest.
If you are pregnant, then deal with it at the time. If you are not, you will have learnt from this.
I understand it is easy for me to sit here and say this, but going ahead with a test is the best thing.
If you cant do it at home, you could do it at a friends, or at a push in a public toilet, but you need to do it. If you dont the feeling inside wont go away, and you will convince yourself everything you feel is due to being 'pregnant'.
If you choose to have an abortion that is your decision, but it is not one to be made easily. There is a lot of help and advice available (a lot of help is available here) but ultimately it is your decision, not that of your parents.
I do not know what religion you are, nor does it matter. However, I am sure your parents want what is best for you, and your happiness will be paramount.
Hope all goes ok.
ok...so il update u...i got my period and it lasted about 5 days so that really started to put my mind at rest. My tummy pains and sick feeling was still there so after my period ended, i did a home pregnancy test and it told me it was negative. My tummy pains and sick feeling is still here though. im going to make an appointment with the doctor coz i dont know wot it is. I know i sound like some weird paranoid worrier, but is it possible that im pregnant even after the test was negative? or am i just being reallllly paranoid?
As for the severe pain and heavy flow, I'd say it sounds like stress from the exams and all the other worry. Worst case scenario would be miscarriage, but that's really not likely. But I'm not a doctor so go see your GP.
Just rationalise it to yourself - you used a condom, you took the pill which (even though wasn't continuous) really lowers chances of ovulation, and youve had two periods, even if they were a bit late (stress does that to me). one light bleed means its still possible but two is not likely at allYou've had two negative tests, youre fine.
Reading this back it seems a little condescending but i dont mean it like that at all; i used to do the same thing all the time and i totally know how it feels, u just have to rationalise it to yourself. let us know xxx