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my ex boyfriend is an absolute arsehole, but then i guess it's my fault for getting with someone whilst they were in prison.
he basically used me for money while he was in there, said when he got out things would be great, my mum took me to see him every other week and bought him clothes, as well as offering him a place to live. i know i was a total idiot for believing him but i genuinely liked him and had done for ages. predictably once he was out he did nothing he said he would, hasn't sorted his life out and has gone back to taking shit loads of drugs, getting himself arrested and god knows what else.
he finished me a few days after he got out + blamed everything on me, shagged some lass the next day + has barely spoken to me since. we were good mates before he was in prison but now when i see him we don't even see eye to eye. and the most stupid thing about the whole situation is that i still like him + i really don't want to
considering i was near enough the only person there for him for 5 months i don't understand what goes on in his head..or what went on in my head in all fairness. i don't know many other people that would do what i did. none of his other 'mates' did. i guess i expected too much.
i know i seem like a complete pushover and should just forgot about him but it's something i'm finding really difficult and i feel i can't talk about it with anyone. mainly because everyone thinks i'm completely fine about it now.
any advice?
he basically used me for money while he was in there, said when he got out things would be great, my mum took me to see him every other week and bought him clothes, as well as offering him a place to live. i know i was a total idiot for believing him but i genuinely liked him and had done for ages. predictably once he was out he did nothing he said he would, hasn't sorted his life out and has gone back to taking shit loads of drugs, getting himself arrested and god knows what else.
he finished me a few days after he got out + blamed everything on me, shagged some lass the next day + has barely spoken to me since. we were good mates before he was in prison but now when i see him we don't even see eye to eye. and the most stupid thing about the whole situation is that i still like him + i really don't want to
considering i was near enough the only person there for him for 5 months i don't understand what goes on in his head..or what went on in my head in all fairness. i don't know many other people that would do what i did. none of his other 'mates' did. i guess i expected too much.
i know i seem like a complete pushover and should just forgot about him but it's something i'm finding really difficult and i feel i can't talk about it with anyone. mainly because everyone thinks i'm completely fine about it now.
any advice?
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There's no easy to way get over somebody. It will take time, maybe even months but you will get there. Every time you think about, remember all the things he did. Used you for money and made a load of empty promises.... slept with someone the day after he finished with you. He had it since and cosy inside while you waited and waited outside for him, wanting a relationship... that doesnt sound like a decent guy to me and you're better off forgetting him
he got arrested again today, well handed himself in after i got an arrest warrant through the door last week..
i was speaking to some of his friends today and they said there's no helping him. his best friend said that nobody cares about him anymore which i find quite sad but it's his fault i guess.. i still feel bad for him though.
but then if he doesn't care then why should anyone else
maybe i need to meet new people.
Yup, you dont need to be involved with people like that
Show him you've moved on, don't let him see that he's affected you, and get yourself a nice man!
thanks for your advice, i do appreciate it. it's also nice to know that i'm not alone
i duno if thats how you feel, but i have felt a similar way b4. truth is you have to tell urself who cares. later in life he will remember you helped, and when no one else is there he will wish he was smarter with you. it will be his learning experience, but dont put urself down for being a genuine friend, and believing what he says. ur just honest and caring, and u do not ever want to change those things about urself for a lying loser.
good luck