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Being hit by a 3 year old
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What do people suggest if you have a 3 year old hitting you or throwing metal toy cars at you?
Not in this situation currently but was recently staying with a family where their boy (and only child in the house) was fairly violent at times.
Not in this situation currently but was recently staying with a family where their boy (and only child in the house) was fairly violent at times.
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I used to tell his mother, and let her deal with it, even though i was sort of in a position as an older sister, i still wasn't an actual sister, i was just staying in their house and i didn't feel it was my place to do anything other than tell him that it was bad...
If it was a case of the parent going, "Oh look at little x, aren't they funny?" Then I'd have no option but to open up a can of Jack Bauer. :yes:
He's still the little shit to his parents and some other members of my family but he's nothing short of respectful to me.
So my advice is, call their bluff with something that will adversely affect them. Hard to tell what but im sure the situation will arise at some point.
Later when he had tipped the entire contents of my hand bag over the hall floor i told him very quietly that he had to pick everything up and put it back and that i was very upset - i think that made more of an impression.
And of course making them aplologise.
And involve the parent if they are there.
I dont have a problem with gently telling other peoples kids off and I would be perfectly OK with someone saying the same to one of my kids if they were being a sod.
I think its good for kids to know they can get in trouble off anyone who sees it if they dont behave.
i was thinking that
tbh, i was in this situation when i was coaching 4 yr olds tennis
there was one that though it was funny to punch me, and as i'm quite a tall guy and their quite short it was in an area no guy wants to be hit, EVER!:no: :eek:
so when ever he tried it i grabbed his arm before he could do it and told him if he was to do it again then i would get his mum down and she would take him away, the amount of times i sat him down so he would stop, but eventually it came to it and i actually got his mum down and she gave him a right bollocking
my advice is basically get the parents involved
or let micheal jackson or gary glitter have them;)
The problem arises when the parents themself do not disapline a child, I've heard the excuse "oh they're just playing" so many times, a child thumping another child is NOT playing, a child lobbing lumps of metal (cars) at people is NOT playing, those parents should be shot.
If they did it again, they'd go on the naughty spot.
If they did it again, I'd cut their arms off.
only joking, i have had this with my neices, just tell them really firmly to stop, and say they cant have any sweets! generally sorts my lot out.
Thats too far for anyone except immediate family
I was actually thinking of my cousin and niece, so point accepted.
And to be honest, if a friends' child was doing the same, but my friends either weren't around, or were letting it continue without taking action, I'd likely take the same stance. How you bring up your children is up to you, and it is your right to do as you see fit. But if they started being violent toward me, or a child in my care, then I'd stop them using non-violent means.
Though I dare say you'll swear at me again and tell me how wrong I am.
Questionable whether is exactly non-voilent pinning someones arms to their side. I mean, I get what you're saying, but I think you might be likely to wind up a kid more making them feel totally helpless because you're restricting their movement. But then you know the kids so they probably understand what you're doing and that you'll let go if they calm down... If it were a child that didn't know you do well it would probably just scare them silly and stress them out.
I don't think it's really a good idea to stop a bad behaviour by demonstrating a bad behaviour yourself, or doing something the child could then copy or think is how you're supposed to interact.
Demonstrating bad behaviour... I guess that depends on your own point of view. Is it worse for a child to be violent toward other people, and throw metal objects at them - or is it worse to forcibly stop them doing wrong, until they have calmed down enough to listen to what you're saying?
Children should have all the freedom in the world - but if they are so engrossed in what they are doing, and aren't listening to the authoritative voice of reason, and right and wrong, then their behaviour has to stop until they are back at a point where they will take on-board what is said.
IMO.
Sometimes when the kid behaved badly I'd resort to tickling him a lot which would at least get him to stay more then arms length away from me for a while.
Depending how good your aim is, one may be certainly enough!
Someday that child is going to have to learn the valuable lesson that you shouldn't start fights with people bigger than you, maybe you'll be the one to teach them;)