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"getting wet"
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hi guys,
pleas ehelp if you can, any answers would be very welcome,
i dont find it hard to be turned on by my partner as i find him very attractive and sexy in every way, but i do find it hard to "get wet" and to stay wet and i dont know why this is as i love everything that my partner does to me but he says that i am not wet and he finds sex uncomfortable i am finding this very distressing and i am not sure what to do.
i hope this is going to give me some answers
pleas ehelp if you can, any answers would be very welcome,
i dont find it hard to be turned on by my partner as i find him very attractive and sexy in every way, but i do find it hard to "get wet" and to stay wet and i dont know why this is as i love everything that my partner does to me but he says that i am not wet and he finds sex uncomfortable i am finding this very distressing and i am not sure what to do.
i hope this is going to give me some answers
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i think the best deal is ForPlay De Luxe Gel PLUS as it comes with everything you need
Is that speaking from experience? hehe
I dont know bout the old people bit, but lubricants do help if youre finding yourself a tad dry when you want to be in the mood...and theres some interesting flavoured ones out atm! havent tried them myself though...:razz:
He sounds like an idiot imo
It may well be a psychological thing bottleblonde - do you feel under pressure to perform when youre with him?
If youre not totally relaxed then that might be an issue.
Do you indulge in much foreplay?
Also do you get wet if you are by yourself?
The fact that it's become a worry for you probably isn't helping and once you can get over that you may well find things get easier
Every woman is different! Some produce more than others. I have sometimes had to use lube...it can also depend on different times in your cycle. It is either use lube if you need it or no sex. If you have sex and you are not wet enough it can cause friction which is just not nice :no:
Damaging to his ego, or damaging to his reproductive organs.
If it's second, then ask why (allergies?) there is different stuff out there with different formulas.
If it's the first I do not even understand that? As long as your boyfriend cannot ooze juice along his shaft to lubricate whatever hole his penis is going in, the lubrication is provided by a buy able product or the woman's vagoo. So I do not understand why it's detrimental to his manhood if he hardly contributes to lubrication while sexing. So it's rather a "woman's problem" and not something he is "doing wrong" (if you understand. Opposed to viagra, which is the "man's problem".)
If he is that stupid maybe talk some sense into him or withhold sex until his needs beat his manhood in a cage fight.
Then he's an idiot and doesn't understand that physiology differs between everybody everywhere!!
I don't exactly have a wealth of experience, but I've been with both types of women, and there are pros and cons to both. Well-lubed up is fun because you don't need to worry, but if you need lube, it's just an excuse to do more things with it!
A little imagination overcomes (heh) any hurdle
I realized that, therefore I am thinking for a fitting analogy that would make him realize it's not like that (like women suffering from a medical condition that 100% prevents lubrication in every circumstance and there is nothing man can do), but I'm stumped.
Similar to why some girls think they are not good enough, because the partner's looking at porn occasionally, but I just can't find a fitting analogy.
/e: In reality he's not making himself stand in a good light, because he thinks he is not able to make her wet and therefore failing (or he blames the girl, because she is blocked because of a trauma), lol. I don't know.