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Bulimic Flatmate

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    An additional thought. Maybe the replies in this thread and the spectrum pf answers are further justification why with potentially serious matters it is best to ask a professional than a discussion board.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    and what do you think a professional would do? Its not an emergency situation. Its not suicide, its just fucked up eating habits that will not, ever, ever get better until the girl decides she wants to sort this out for herself.
    Intervention by someone she barely knows, is likely to be embarrassing and make it worse
  • **helen****helen** Mod malarkist Posts: 9,235 Boards Champion
    ShyBoy wrote: »
    An additional thought. Maybe the replies in this thread and the spectrum pf answers are further justification why with potentially serious matters it is best to ask a professional than a discussion board.

    I'm sorry to see that this thread has led for some people to be overly critical of each other, but I can't help but question the 'ask a professional rather than a discussion board' point. By all means ask a professional too, (something we always encourage on TheSite.org) but I don't think it's fair to devalue the responses in this thread.

    If anything the fact that people who have direct experience of what Thunderstruck has posted about shows that it's really positive to ask the board and to me there is quite a strong concensus in the types of replies. Also, the link you posted from somethingfishy, looked really useful and interesting. What was also interesting though, was that you chose to isolate something so specific from the advice in the article and perhaps missed some of the bigger picture?

    Anyway, I hope you don't lose heart because of this - hope you have a nice relaxing weekend. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've had dealing with ED professionals, and in my experience, they aren't always up to much. I have seen better advice given here.

    Many of the people who've posted here have direct experience of EDs, so they actually do know the deal. You shouldn't be so quick to dismiss it!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Olive wrote: »
    I've had dealing with ED professionals, and in my experience, they aren't always up to much. I have seen better advice given here.

    Many of the people who've posted here have direct experience of EDs, so they actually do know the deal. You shouldn't be so quick to dismiss it!

    I wasn't trying to dismiss it immediately, it was more food for thought. I can't vouch for professionals but I would assume by the nature of them being professionals they would know the best course of action.

    SCC - I think you're still missing my point. I said I would ask a professional for advice. I wouldn't phone an ambulance. I would ask someone who understands the illness and the circumstances surrounding it what the best course of action for someone in my shoes would be, whether that be acting like it's not there or whatever.

    I wasn't looking for a big argument, just posting my 2p.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ShyBoy wrote: »
    I would ask someone who understands the illness and the circumstances surrounding it what the best course of action for someone in my shoes would be, whether that be acting like it's not there or whatever.

    Which is exactly what the OP has done.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Olive wrote: »
    Which is exactly what the OP has done.
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    I wasn't looking for a big argument, just posting my 2p.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hyperthetically if i heard throwing up and the bathroom door was closed id knock and say "are you okay in there?" to show you are actually worried, if she in this case says yes, then just leave it at that..if she says no id ask to come in ns ee what was wrong, then i would tell her im there for her.

    But overall i agree with ShyBoy.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ShyBoy wrote: »
    I wasn't looking for a big argument, just posting my 2p.

    As was I :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ShyBoy wrote: »
    I can't vouch for professionals but I would assume by the nature of them being professionals they would know the best course of action.

    you'd be surprised.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    omg hi wrote: »
    you'd be surprised.

    Indeed. My friend with anorexia was told by her NHS eating disorder specialist, "try eating an extra piece of toast with your breakfast". :rolleyes:

    I think there's probably a difference between someone who is binging and purging but maintaining a healthy weight, and an anorexic who is dangerously thin. Intervention when the person is in immediate danger might be justifiable, but when they're just engaging in one of the many unhealthy and dysfunctional practices that people have, the imperative to get involved disappears. When her BMI gets frighteningly low and you're worried she's about to die, then you might want to think about talking to her or a doctor.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,328 The Mix Honorary Guru
    as a bulimic myself, i'm dreading of the same thing happening to me when i start uni in september. I think asking her outright is out of the question, as the ED would immediately tell you to deny it, so wouldn't acheive anything positive really. You could try and have innocent convos about food and eating habits and see if she'd willing to open up abit more.
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