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Isnt that been a bit unfair on her then, pretty much saying, be my gf or else i wont talk to you? If you cared for her as much as you make out in the 50+ posts (which isnt posessive sounding at all) you have made in this thread, you'd have the balls to at least want to stay in touch with her whatever the outcome.
From what you have said in here, I really think you are looking far too much into this.
Isn't it a little unfair on me also? I want her to make the best decision thats right for her. If the two of them get together for who knows how long. Could be months even years. Im supposed to wait here like some pathetic little puppy dog and wait for my turn. A chance that might never come. If she ends up going forward with this other guy shouldn't I start moving forward as well, without her. I know it sounds bad but wouldn't that be the reasonable thing to do. And yes I do care for her, but letting it drag on if the two of them were together would be so hard on me, could also be awkward for her she might not want me to hang around. I don't know what is the right thing to do in this situation.
Perhaps that I am. But I have to try.
In the end I may end up getting hurt, who knows. Theres still alot that could go right and alot that could go wrong. Im just going to try and make the best decisions that I can about it.
So I get an email back from her today and it says something like my connection was dropping and I wasn't talking to anyone else. My other friends understand this and why can't you. And that I don't think Im being rude and impolite to you.
About a week ago she was at her friends birthday party and she texted me. Eventually she got drunk and forgot all about me. This is just one of the few times already that we had been talking and she just left me there hanging and never saying sorry for it.
Also in the email I got from her she said my words were really hurtful and that she wouldn't be talking with me for awhile. From the above example don't I have a right to be angry about the way that she treats me sometimes. Up to now I haven't said anything about it till the other night. Okay so I was completely off about the other night but I have apologized for what I had said.
If I asked her outright who she would rather be with, I know what the answer would be without even asking, and it wouldn't be me. Yes I've read the relationship sections. Havent' talked to an expert yet though.
Even before I started this thread weeks ago I thought about how this whole situation would play out. No one has said anything so far that I didn't expect to hear.
I appreciate the advice that everyone has given me to now, especially you and jaloux. Even if things were to end badly for me I don't think it would be that bad for me. I feel alot stronger about how I would deal with that if the situation came then I did before.
Mainly I just kept this thread going just to let everyone know how things were progressing with me and her. I have realized for awhile now what I should be doing about it. But I suppose these message boards aren't intended for these kinds of updates. Judging from your last post your sick of hearing about it and Im sure other people are as well. I'll stop doing these updates now. At this stage I know what I have to do in this situation.
Becks, but I do appreciate all that you have said to me in the last few weeks, along with everyone else. Have a nice day.
I think shes getting a bit annoyed by your obsessions, you seem to go off on one whenever she does soemthing that you dont agree with.