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Libido in tatters
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I’m 18 and it feels like my libido has completely dried up. I’ve been concerned about sex since a few years ago I lost my virginity and had major problems getting an erection (I haven’t had sex since then so I have no idea whether it was a one off) but only recently has that concern actually overwhelmed the desire to do it. Now I’m in the early stage of a relationship with a girl who I really like, but when I think of sleeping with her (or anything else sexual) I just feel scared. Don’t really know how I’m going to get past this.
Sorry that’s not really a question, I’ve just been bottling all this up for a while and I wanted to get it off my chest. Any advice is welcome.
Sorry that’s not really a question, I’ve just been bottling all this up for a while and I wanted to get it off my chest. Any advice is welcome.
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You will get past this mind problem with time, patience and practice.
The key is to take any unwanted pressure off yourself and don't stress yourself - you could start by telling new girl you like her lots and don't want to ruin things by rushing in with sex as you want to get to know her more. Unless she's a vicky pollard style slag that should earn you few brownie points and allow you both to explore each other without the added worry of sex - until you're both ready.
Once you feel comfortable in her presence you'll maintain wood and be able to enjoy sex without fear of losing it. And if you do lose wood, just laugh it off, kiss and cuddle and try again later.