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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
I haven't really got any friends, and now my boyfriend has fucked off out of my life too. The last time this happened, I went a bit mental. I dropped out of University, was put on antidepressants, started counselling, then moved abroad a bit, now I'm back, I start seeing someone else, I have no degree, I work 12 hours a week stacking shelves, then, 3 months on, BAM - 'I'm not ready, this isn't working..'


I don't know what my point is. I'm terrified to spend another unspecified period of time on my own, not being able to sleep, just crying a lot, sending text messages that are never answered.


I'm not sure I can stand to go it alone again. I'd have killed myself long before now if I had the spine.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That's the problem if you depend on people so much as if they were you oxygen, I guess. First, do the basic "to get over someone" things, like going out a lot, be in company, try to pick up old, dusty friendships, then you should start to get your life in order. Why not going back to uni for your degree? I don't think stacking shelves is the ultimate goal of your life.

    As soon as a new man comes into your life, try to still have a separate life on your own and don't depend too much on him, as this can very easily be the grounds for the break-up (clinginess, etc.) and fucks you up big time when the relationship breaks apart. Break-ups are things everyone has to deal with and some clearly do it better than others. I don't think you do it particularly bad because of your genes or some other stuff. It's learned behavior and a bad one to boot.

    So, buckle up and go on with your life, it might be a hard phase, but dwelling over those things has never improved the mood or brought answers for your question...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I am planning on going back to Uni, but that's a good year away and I'm not sure how I'll kill time in between.. I would pick up old friendships, but sadly everyone's in different parts of the country, doing their important, busy degrees, and it's pretty difficult to get hold of them..


    I don't know if things really are so difficult or I'm just making up excuses. I don't know.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Whereabouts in the West Mids are you? Find some local TheSiters to have some drinks with :).

    Or, just do the only real sane thing - buy a motorbike. You'll never need friends again ;).
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Clicky, I'm in the same town as you. Sunny Stafford!

    P.S. Not allowed to drive as my vision is 6 feet tops, and that is with a -26 lens.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Aye, there's more than just us. Nikki was in Stafford too, as well as her mate. Can't remember her name now...

    I'm up in Wildwood. Feeling quite chilly tonight. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have been thinking about getting my motorbike licence actually, but have no motorbike.. I live in that elusive bit of the Midlands between Dudley and Kidderminster.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oh what's the point..
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There are usually thesite meets in the midlands arnt there? Not that i ever went when i was up in brum, but ive always wanted to go...
    Thesite live chats are really good..i think its great to talk bout random stuff on there...
    I think the motorbike thing sounds fun, and gets you out and about and focused on doing something :-)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oh what's the point..

    Motorbike licenses are BRILLIANT! I'm taking mine out for the day tomorrow to see my bestest friend in Wrexham... I'm ashamed to admit I've not seen him for a year.

    Keep smiling :).
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    trying.. failing..


    even if i did get my licence, what's the point? I don't really see the point in anything, to be honest.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Don't see spilitting up from your boyfriend as being a bad thing, see it as a new beginning.
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