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Well, you didn't seem to have your issues resolved by the end of the post but fair enough.
Being devoid of emotion is not a sign that you are a 'bloke'. Real men do have emotions.
Each to their own but friends enrich our lives in so many different ways. Going by this and your previous posts, I don't understand why anyone would want to be near you - let alone being a mere acquaintance. What on earth does any one find 'attractive' about you? You must hide your real personality from people very well which may indicate a level of deviousness about you.
I don't mean to sound nasty because I don't want to be, but you are so going to wake up with a bump one day. You won't make any relationship last and any children that you may have one day, will find you cold, distant and aloof. It's all well and fine while you have youth and looks on your side, but that will pass very rapidly. If anyone urgently needed counselling on this site, I would nominate you. I sincerely do hope you realise soon that you are not an island ... it would be a waste of your life if you left that realisation too late.
The best piece of relationship advice I've received was from my grandmother. She was in her 80s at the time, and she was stuck in bed, recovering for a fall and my grandfather was doing his best to look after her. He'd just left the room when she turned to me and said:
"Make sure you marry a man who will be your friend. Romance and passion's important, but when you're eighty, what you'll really want is a man who'll carry you to the bathroom."
I only wish she'd lived to meet the friend I married.
i think tinkler has had and still haveing problems with his masculinity cos he was flopping his previous attempts with girl.
I so don't want to appear insulting though, because everyone is different and I respect Tink's right to be different. I just cannot fathom, however, how his mind works. I find it all kinda sad ...
That is lovely and I'd nominate that for POTW.
"If it's dead don't dig it up every five minutes to check if there is a pulse"
-Basically move on
And also my mate at uni told me: "If you want something go for it"
ie. Dont procrastinate and wait for the window of opportunity to close. This lesson I learnt the hard way, not having the courage to ask a girl I fancied out for a whole academic year, until it was too late and she was seeing somebody else.
awww
I guess it is so so true too
Life is too short.
I don't mean what tinkler means necessarily though, as in everything has to have a purpose. But, don't waste time worrying, don't waste time regretting your mistakes, don't waste time feeling angry to people who have done bad things to you, don't stay in and hope that one day things will happen - because tomorrow, you might be dead, or something might happen that turns your whole life on its head. Seize the day and live life.
Oh...and always have a firm handshake no matter who you are shaking hands with!
Whoops! Thats not really relationship advice...well on a relationship note:
Everyone is playing the dating game! Always keep your options open!
As soon as you don't get what you want though, you become miserable. Your idea of happiness revolves around you getting what you want. For a lot of us - for me - happiness is just there. Yea, getting a job, or whatever, really makes me feel good for a bit. But that base level of happiness or unhappiness is always there.
What would you do if you got made redundant and couldn't afford to go out nightclubbing anymore? Would you then feel that you could not be happy because you could not get what you wanted? There's just so much more to life than personal gain.
As are with people with psychopathic tendencies.
So you are happy to use Rohypnol then, huh?
And another good one, that I read first and just remembered (I've not managed to follow it so well though):
Not sure which is better, so I'm saying both.
you sure you're not just some sad idiot sat on a computer :razz:?
my best advice is drink a pint of water before beddy byes over a night out on the piss (great if I can ever remember)
and my nan always tells me to rise above it all which is hard but good advice.
Buddhists would say that craving causes suffering, since the more you have, the more you want. I think it's an idea to consider what you're glad you do have at the moment, rather than focusing on what else you're lacking/you want to acquire next.
Doesn't everyone think differently and have different values? i presume tinkler's just being himself, which (to me at least) is something to admire. Sure, society does mould our views to a good extent but everyone still does think differently.
That's so lovely!
The best advice was given to me by my mum, who said "Every second you spend unhappy is 60 seconds of happiness wasted."
Its really helped me learn to let go and get rid of negativity and I'm a much calmer, happier person for it.
I quite like a lot of the buddhist idealogy.
But I am too attatched to things like sex to not want it, or computer games, or anything I get excited about really.
My friend has converted though and she's much happier for it.
what a load of absolute shit! my two best friends are females actually and they have the best god damm friends i have ever had. seriously. girls are so much easyer to talk to than alot of boys and i find i get on with girls really well.( i am straight by the way) lol. they have been there for me more times than all of my other friends put together. you sound like an arrogant prick to be honest and i will laugh when everyone realises that and you are left alone with no one to turn to. what a shit veiw on women.
we think its sad because when you wake up and realise yuou are an ageing arrogant prick that has done nothing but fuck up other people lives i think you might feel a tad down then. you feel great now, fucking awsome i would expect but just wait. you will feel very lonely very soon. we may not be as euphoricly (is that a word) happy as you at the moment but thats probably due to the conciounc ( dont know how to spell) embedded in our brains. you will very soon have no one. you seem to think of people as things or possions that you can just use and discard.
I don't know what's wrong with being friends with a girl. Admittedly I don't have a lot nowadays, cuz most girls I met didn't live up to what I look for in a friend (I hope this doesn't sound horrible!). If she's whining to you you, how she can't get a guy, or her b/f is horrid, tell her to stop whining and do something for it! Like, "look at me? I don't had any rlship for years now, do you see me crying?". If she can't take it and just want you to be her emotional tampon (thanks MattLiverpool for this expression), she's not cut out to be your friend. That doesn't mean that every girl is like that. And I have to say, I made a couple very important experiences with female friends, as they sometimes give really good advice, different to a boy's adivce or inadvertently teach you how to be a witty, not shy, charismatic guy around girls which will help you lots when it comes to pulling.
Someone being whiny and miserable all the time isn't sex related. Just because someone's a pussy doesn't mean he has one too.
advice I heard from a good friend's father I only met a few times (because he traveled a lot and is now divorced and lives elsewhere).
"The harder you work when you are young (i.e. on your education), the easier you'll have it later on and the more money you'll earn."
sounds stupid and obvious, but it did something for me.
I'll think about more later.
:yes:
http://xkcd.com/458/
If it works: leave it.
If it's broken: mend it
If you can't mend it: get rid of it.
Works for a lot of things imho,... relationships too.
Thanks for this I will remember it as one of the best advice that I heard. In fact I will read it out tomorrow morning to help me stop regretting my mistakes.(English is not my first language so sorry If I have made mistakes in a process)
awww so true.I'm in my 20's and I wanna be a teenager again sooo bad!:banghead:
I don't know if I've ever been sat down and explicitly told 'x and y' or whatever, so the way I live my life is more down to a process of osmosis from all the people I've met in my nearly 26 years on this earth.
Basically, things are never that bad, if you do your best nobody can ask for anything more, and if you want something, go for it.
I wish I had a yoda-figure in my life though...
Get the money first.