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A family member addicted to second life.

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
That game just takes over peoples lives...what is it about it which makes it so addictive?

A family member of mine schedules her life around when her online friends from different countries are on it...has facebook albums dedicated to her 'SL' marriage.

This person doesn't work due to a lifelong disability so to occupy herself she goes on the net which is fair play but this is a pure addiction!!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lord knows because it's a pile of shite.

    It runs badly, it looks ugly and it's full of furries.

    Shawn Elliott at GFW Magazine did an excellent article about people who are virtual prostitutes in Second Life. Folk make a living giving digital blowjobs.

    My friend and I went on a tour of second life, which involved being kicked out of a Stars Wars themed area for driving clown cars around Mos Eisley We caught ourselves dancing in a German disco and realised that we were on the peak of a slippery slope. Uninstalled it straight away.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi

    I've got to agree with the above. God knows how anyone can be addicted to Secondlife. I used it for a few hours desperately trying to figure out what the point in it was. When i realised there was infact no point i quit and uninstalled it. I wasted a few hours of my life on that shite, my time would have been so much more productive if i'd spent it scratching my backside !!

    Andy
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Second Life, WoW, EVE Online, etc...

    These games are designed with addiction in mind so it's no surprise people get hooked. I attended a lecture by one of the original developers of EVE and he basically said that their purpose had always been to create an addictive game you can never get enough of.

    These game give a lot of people feelings of involvement and importance. You can be a warlord online whereas offline you're just a worthless person working a dead-end job and getting nagged by family for sucking so much. I think everybody knows somebody whose life is work, play, sleep. Their 'life' is going on in their games. But of course it really is just an illusion of a life. It's not all doom and gloom though ;)

    I don't touch any of these games because I know I'd become addicted easily, I have a history of having been an IRC addict and the net is still a chain around my neck at times. I'm tempted to try EVE but I just know it's not a route I want to go down anymore.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    See, Second Life isn't like WoW or other MMOs. There's no goal to Second Life, you just use real cash to buy space bucks, which you can spend on grafting an animal penis onto your character. MMOs are addictive because your character is growing and getting more powerful. In Second Life, the only thing your character can grow is a extra boob on it's forehead.

    Second Life is the wild fucking west of online content. There is no sexual deviance, hobby or interest that is represented. I guess the addiction is from leading that extra life, an extra life that lets you ride a dinosaur and dance in a space station full of pirates.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sims too. Except there you just play alone so you don't even get the semi social contact of other online people which makes me... I mean them uhoh2.gif even sadder.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh I forgot WoW...the family member who's addicted to SL, her carer is a WoW addict. They don't actually communicate, just play games, all day.

    Ho hum.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    That's something I don't get - what is the addiction of WoW?

    Okay, I've played WoW for over 2 years now, but I'm only on it a couple of nights a week, for 2-3 hours each time. We are a RL (real life) group of friends who will make plans to participate in a couple of weekly dungeons, and we have a laugh over VoIP (Skype / Teamspeak) while killing fictional dragons etc. Of course, we meet outside of WoW too, i.e. in the real world! When I'm not playing WoW on quiet nights in, (and I'm not writing/mixing music), then I'm usually out pubbing/clubbing.

    What's the addiction of WoW?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well i suppose if they are happy then it's better than other things that folk can do.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I guess they are happy. I just find it unusual. But then again...that person cannot do much without having to consider her disability whereas I can just bugger off to the beach all day on my own if I wanted.

    Re: the WoW addiction, the blokey gets really into it. TOO into it, getting cross at it. It's mental!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Curvy Lass - if the bloke's getting cross at it, then he has got to the point where his game that he once enjoyed is no longer enjoyable. Likewise with gambling, one may only put £2 or £3 in the fruities just for a bit of fun, or have the occasional £20 or £30 flutter at a casino. When the bets get bigger and more frequent, and one no longer does it for enjoyment, then that is addiction.

    The first step is getting the player to admit that they have an addiction, whether it's MMO addiction, gambling addiction or substance addiction.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Curvy_lass wrote: »
    I guess they are happy. I just find it unusual. But then again...that person cannot do much without having to consider her disability whereas I can just bugger off to the beach all day on my own if I wanted.

    Re: the WoW addiction, the blokey gets really into it. TOO into it, getting cross at it. It's mental!

    Not too difficult to understand getting annoyed at something happening in a game if you stuff it up at last moment.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jaloux wrote: »
    These games are designed with addiction in mind so it's no surprise people get hooked.

    :yes: Exactly. I was like this with another game a few years ago.
    I guess they are happy. I just find it unusual.

    It probably isn't that unusual tbh. Around 2003, I had an internet addiction. I'm ok now, unless I'm bored.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's better than being addicted to depression :grump:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    See, Second Life isn't like WoW or other MMOs. There's no goal to Second Life, you just use real cash to buy space bucks, which you can spend on grafting an animal penis onto your character. MMOs are addictive because your character is growing and getting more powerful. In Second Life, the only thing your character can grow is a extra boob on it's forehead

    Not true. The beauty of these games is that you create your own goals. Sure, WoW is perhaps the most straightforward of the big games (I'm not too familiar with it actually) but like EVE, people specialise in different things and you can pretty much be whatever you want to be. You find groups to hang with that may be similarly minded. They start depending on you to do certain thing, it makes you feel good to be wanted so you keep coming and decide to put other plans on hold to make it happen.

    Sure the nature of second life may be different (especially as I get the feeling it's not aimed at boys as much as it is aimed at girls) but it doesn't make it more stupid than WoW. People get addicted to these games because of the social aspect. Who cares if you're chopping people's heads off or carving penises for a laugh? The end result is the same.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's better than being addicted to depression :grump:

    Addiction often follows depression.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I was addicted to WoW for 3 years (i still play it but i'm not addicted) and i can honestly say its made my life happy, i didn't really have many friends before i started playing it, then i started and i have met more honest friends than i ever have in school/college/work - sure enough if i had not been playing the game locking myself in a room i might have met some darn nice people anyway!

    Gaming addiction can be bad, but it can also be good, people do not judge you in a game, your personality is projected before people can see you and they can make a better judgment of character. People online have been there for me when i was down down down and i've been there for them.

    Sometimes its hard to see other peoples point of view, and almost impossible on an online game but is socialising with online friends really damaging this person or giving them a new avenue of interaction with people who will not judge their disability?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ok ... I am happy to admit it ... I play Second Life from time to time but I roleplay on a future, post-apocalyptic sim and I have a lot of fun.

    Having said that, when I first opened an account to see what the hell it was about, I couldn't see the point to it either. Loads of people milling about, stores to buy clothing, etc nightclubs ... it was, indeed, a 'second life' but wow, that got boring (like, within a day or two?).

    I was just about to leave and delete the software when someone introduced me to the RP side of SL and that is all I use it for now.

    I probably go on for about 3 hours a week but I do know of many people who use it almost all day. Indeed, a couple of people I know on there do have debilitating illnesses and it is their way of having a life outside of them being stuck within four walls. That I can understand. If it's entertainment, then good on 'em. However, many people are quite sad and don't have much of a real life to distract them .... I do tell them, "Take a break!" but many just can't let go. Fortunately, I can take it or leave it because I have a very fulfilling real life. Some people don't, and may use SL to hide their sadness.

    I think people find it addictive because, apart from the social aspect (think of a higher form of chat to, say, MSN) they invest a lot of real currency to create their AVs and environment, and they find it hard to walk away from that.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sims too. Except there you just play alone so you don't even get the semi social contact of other online people which makes me... I mean them uhoh2.gif even sadder.

    Hey, the sims are awesome. I love them :p:) (My 12 yr old niece got me into them - That's quite sad when I say that out loud come to think of it.) Ek :lol:


    Anyways, I use to play WoW a few years ago. Was great craic but my life didn't revolve round it as such. Just played it when I had nothing to do. Didn't really use it to talk to others either. Was just a game for me until I got bored or found something else I got addicted to.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I got me a second life, and then got stuck in the first corridor as I couldn't work out how to walk around, and decided I should just stick to my 'computer games are shit' mantra to save face.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I remember seeing a program about people addicted to Second Life. You get the impression that people who spend all day on these things have severe social problems in the real world so create these characters in order to compensate for their social awkwardness.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yerascrote wrote: »
    I remember seeing a program about people addicted to Second Life. You get the impression that people who spend all day on these things have severe social problems in the real world so create these characters in order to compensate for their social awkwardness.

    :yes: I have come across this online. And some people have been quite ratty at me because I don't spend the amount of time that they do, and don't understand that I use it as a GAME - and not a 'surrogate' existence. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sims too. Except there you just play alone so you don't even get the semi social contact of other online people which makes me... I mean them uhoh2.gif even sadder.

    Sims are great :D Don't be ashamed, the best of us love the Sims :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I loved the original Sims game, didn't quite get so involved with Sims II.

    Between the Sims I and Sims II releases, EA released their "Sims Online". Don't get me started there. I lived in a big house-share in 2002 with 6 other students. They all decided to latch onto the game and I didn't. The house was transformed from a group of socialites to a group of 24/7 lock-ins. Probably a great game, but proven highly antisocial.
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