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Okay, so it's been over a week since my bf broke up with me. I cannot stop thinking about him.
He ended the relationship due to not spending enough time with each other, we dated for around 3 weeks.
At the beginning, things was great. We went to cinema, he paid.
We had a really nice time.
The following week, i went to his house and had tea there. I thought it went great.
The next week he sent me a message saying that we should stay friends as we haven't been spending enough time together.
A few days before that, I was suggesting to meet up on the Sunday but the rugby was on and he wanted to watch it.
So i suggested Monday but he was meeting up with his best mate for a games night, I didn't wanna push it so i left it as that. I know he doesn't like clingy girls so I haven't been as full on with the relationship. I told him this and he was like, "yeah I don't like clingy girls but I want to see my gf atleast a few days a week" I said we can spend alot more time together now that I know that, told him I miss him etc but his mind was made up.
We dated a few months ago during College but it didn't work out as I "didn't pay him enough attention"
I told him then that i know his mates don't like me and felt uncomfortable around his friends etc but we remained friends.
So a few months down the line, we decide to give another go and this happens.
I can't stop thinking about him and want to talk to him about getting together again but I don't think I can handle the rejection.
He asked me out the first time, I said yeah. He broke up with me. I asked him back out, he said no.
I asked him back out again and he says yeah.
Then i get dumped.
If he liked me then why would he take me to the cinema? Invite me over to his house for tea? He was dead keen too see me, asking me if i wanted to go to his sisters etc.
I don't get it, i haven't felt this way in a long time.
I don't know what to do.
He ended the relationship due to not spending enough time with each other, we dated for around 3 weeks.
At the beginning, things was great. We went to cinema, he paid.
We had a really nice time.The following week, i went to his house and had tea there. I thought it went great.
The next week he sent me a message saying that we should stay friends as we haven't been spending enough time together.
A few days before that, I was suggesting to meet up on the Sunday but the rugby was on and he wanted to watch it.
So i suggested Monday but he was meeting up with his best mate for a games night, I didn't wanna push it so i left it as that. I know he doesn't like clingy girls so I haven't been as full on with the relationship. I told him this and he was like, "yeah I don't like clingy girls but I want to see my gf atleast a few days a week" I said we can spend alot more time together now that I know that, told him I miss him etc but his mind was made up.We dated a few months ago during College but it didn't work out as I "didn't pay him enough attention"
I told him then that i know his mates don't like me and felt uncomfortable around his friends etc but we remained friends.
So a few months down the line, we decide to give another go and this happens.
I can't stop thinking about him and want to talk to him about getting together again but I don't think I can handle the rejection.
He asked me out the first time, I said yeah. He broke up with me. I asked him back out, he said no.
I asked him back out again and he says yeah.
Then i get dumped.
If he liked me then why would he take me to the cinema? Invite me over to his house for tea? He was dead keen too see me, asking me if i wanted to go to his sisters etc.
I don't get it, i haven't felt this way in a long time.
I don't know what to do.
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It sounds as if he wasnt really keen on the relationship..if he wanted to spend more time with you, then it seems that all he would have to have done was to just ask you.
I dont think you were doing anything wrong at all, he is the numbskull who just cant be arsed.
its can be a bit hard to forget people, especially if theyve agreed to a relationship for a short while then broke it off for a stupid excuse(so youve got like a taster), but it sounds like he's not really worth it anyways.
Spend some time with your own mates to help you forget about him
good luck!
I have always believed in getting to know someone first before committing to a relationship. After all, relationships are not just for sex but also spiritually and emotionally. Get the first two feeling good and the sexual side will be more fulfilled.
Best,
Poppi
Agreed.
There was a distinct :yeees: look on my face when I read the first post.
I don't think how long a couple are together is all that relevant when considering how a break up feels, you can be with someone for ages but be 'over' them very quickly or you could only see someone briefly but it can break your heart.
To me, two dates (as is detailed above) is not a relationship, and doesn't count as people being 'together', but that's just me.
I would just notch it up to experience and move onto the next boy - and don't try and read to much into it.
And yet the point of the thread isn't whether other people would call what they had a relationship but how the OP feels about what's happened. I don't think saying 'well it wasn't a real relationship' is going to change how they feel or how upset they are, so it's a bit harsh to judge feelings that way
Perhaps, but sometimes a reality check is needed, and on this I feel it was. Apologies to the OP if I upset them further.
It kinda sucks, but it's better you find out now, than become more emotionally involved and then he goes and breaks your heart.