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My boyfriend needs to be single what do i do?
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I'm hearbroken , I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half, he's said its over because he needs to be single and sort his head out for a while.
I was crying and he said that he'll talk to me again tomorrow and he promised we would get back together - but he never said when or how long this would take.
Is there a chance he won't get back with me???
I feel sick.....I love him so much and he says he loves me but if he loved me why would he want to be single for a while???
i cant stop sobbing :banghead:
he said he just needs to not have the responsibility of having a girlfirend for a while
is he just being selfish??? maybe i should never get back with him
PLEASE HELP!!!!
I was crying and he said that he'll talk to me again tomorrow and he promised we would get back together - but he never said when or how long this would take.
Is there a chance he won't get back with me???
I feel sick.....I love him so much and he says he loves me but if he loved me why would he want to be single for a while???
i cant stop sobbing :banghead:
he said he just needs to not have the responsibility of having a girlfirend for a while
is he just being selfish??? maybe i should never get back with him
PLEASE HELP!!!!
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Youd be a fool to take him back
Hugs to you. being dumped is so so so horrible
you see though the thing is ive threatened to break up with him as he's been drinking so much he comes up to me drunk , i end up nursing his hangovers and he just lets me down a lot
he never used to be like this...
i got so frustrated i told him it was over but i didnt mean it
but now he says he needs to be single for a while so he doesn't have to be worrying about what i think etc
does that still mean he just wants to sleep around?
Not all guys who split up a long term relationship go on the razz. Not all of them tell lies to cover up for sleeping around while having given their gf's the push. If he really loves you then he will return. And I know you will be there waiting for him even though this split may become one of the biggest tests you've encountered.
And don't be too hard on yourself for telling him it's over. many a hard word is spoken in haste, we all do it and I know I have in the past.
Not all men are sods, so give your man a chance to sort himself out. Oh - and welcome here!
Best,
Poppi
yeah i think so too but im not sure if i should take him back
he seems to think this will 'fix us'
im not so sure
i think maybe i should just accept its over and ignore him if he calls/texts for the next couple of weeks(he's said he will)
and then if he still wants it to be over well then maybe leave him to it and move on without him and never get back with him??????
confused and hurt
I used a similar excuse to an ex girlfriend of mine.... I promised her we'd get back together some day, even though I knew I didn't really want to. It was just because we'd been together for 3 years, things had become very stale and boring, we'd argue all the time, never go out and do things, and stopped having sex. I'd tried to break up with her a few times before, but didn't have the guts...she was my first real girlfriend and I'd never had to dump someone before.
Telling her that we'd get back together made it slightly easier for both of us. We never did however, and I found someone else to be with.
This could be the reason? Think about your relationship, has it been past it's sell by date for a while now? Maybe this is for the best, or maybe he has issues of his own and needs to be by himself for a while. You should talk to him about it a bit more, or just accept and move on.
Whatever the reason, I feel for you, it sucks I know.
If you're in a relationship you don't split up and be single for a while when you have problems, you work through them together. When people marry, they don't get divorced when they have have issues in their life to deal with, they work together and help each other.
Sorry to say this but if he loved you, then he wouldn't want to be single at all, he would want to be with you. I mean...you love him, would you ever want to risk splitting up with him and being single just because you wanted to "sort your head out"? When I'm in a relationship, my boyfriend is the first person I turn to.
Relationships need work, not break ups when the going gets tough.
I hope you do the right thing, you deserve better than this :thumb:
I was just thinking the very same thing.
My advice - give him time and see what happens. Obviously it will hurt, and obviously it may well just be a ploy, so dont expect anything and let him do the grovelling if he wants you back.