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old 'friend' dilemma - what would you do??
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ok so basically im having a dilemma towards an old friend. said friend (let call her X) has been away travelling with another old friend of mine (lets call her Y) for a year. previous to that year, they were both becoming very distant, hardly ever came out, never made contact with me or any other of our friends etc. none of us went to their leaving do, as we werent entirely fussed about them leaving for a year - no nastiness, just werent massively upset at the thought of not seeing them for a year.
at the start of their year travelling, had a few bebo messages and emails from X. Y deleted me and all our friends off her bebo for reasons unknown and we havent heard from her since. that was fine. her loss tbh. contact was zero between X and the rest of us for the rest of the year.
but now theyre back home and ive since had a few texts and bebo messages off X wanting to meet up, get a gossip etc. the dilemma im having is whether to reply or not......havent spoke to this girl in about a year, dont consider a her a friend anymore, plus theres the whole Y deleting everyone off her bebo issue - dont wanna have to deal with the drama of that. but dont wanna seem bitchy or nasty towards X, as i said there was no bad feelings in the whole thing.
god, as im typing it out, it all seems a bit saved by the bell-ish but its really doing my nut in. any opinions gratefully recieved!
at the start of their year travelling, had a few bebo messages and emails from X. Y deleted me and all our friends off her bebo for reasons unknown and we havent heard from her since. that was fine. her loss tbh. contact was zero between X and the rest of us for the rest of the year.
but now theyre back home and ive since had a few texts and bebo messages off X wanting to meet up, get a gossip etc. the dilemma im having is whether to reply or not......havent spoke to this girl in about a year, dont consider a her a friend anymore, plus theres the whole Y deleting everyone off her bebo issue - dont wanna have to deal with the drama of that. but dont wanna seem bitchy or nasty towards X, as i said there was no bad feelings in the whole thing.
god, as im typing it out, it all seems a bit saved by the bell-ish but its really doing my nut in. any opinions gratefully recieved!
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if you know you dont want to see her, then yeah make excuses rather than just ignore her. or, if you're certain you dont want to see her ever again, maybe say so but in as nicer way as you can.
if it's that you dont know if you want to see her, then id say meet her anyway and see what happens. people grow apart but no reason why you cant sort things out.
It's whether they reciprocate your effort is what counts.