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Excuses
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What kinda thing do you use as an excuse if you've promised you'll be somewhere or go to something, but don't want to go? I usually use say I have to work.
I have a reason for asking, I'm suppose to go to a party this Friday, but for various reasons I'm not gonna go. But I need an excuse...
I have a reason for asking, I'm suppose to go to a party this Friday, but for various reasons I'm not gonna go. But I need an excuse...
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Migraine (obviously depends what you do instead).
Got this weekend and next weekend confused and have double booked.
Say that you would really like to come but you've got a family meal which you've promised to go to (cousins 18th or something) or you're babysitting.
White lies are useful.
Telliing somebody that you can't make it for a particualr reason (even if it's made up) is more considerate and less rude than saying you can't be arsed.
Of course you run the risk of being found out, and then it becomes even ruder, but that's always the chanve you take.
I've used both of these to get out of work do's before.
Well I can go, I just don't want to. It's a mate's bday, not an especially good friend, but she's really good friends with my best friend (still following?) and she wants 4 of us to go out in fancy dress as army girls. Which generally isn't really my thing, because I'll just feel a bit of a twat. And I don't especially enjoy going out with that group, when I do I usually end up being left/wandering off and catching up with some other people. So all in all it's one I'd rather be out off. They didn't actually ask, they just presumed I would but I should have been quicker saying I couldn't go.
:yes: I tried once saying I had to work when my friends wanted me to go see that godawful sex in the city movie. I felt guilty for saying no to everything else for the last few weeks so I said yes. Then when I lied to try to get out of it they kept rescheduling so I'd be able to go
Since it doesn't seem your thing and you're not that keen of that group, I shouldn't imagine just saying, I'm just not up for it would be too offensive to anybody. And if they ask tell them you know you'll end up the lone army girl with a group of civis and that'll just be ackward for everybody
Wouldn't guarantee this will work - when I held a big bbq recently I was quite upset by people who said they would turn up but didn't. I think it is much better to say you can't make it than leave them wondering...