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new rant about uni and pressure on students
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I've just put up a rant about the pressure everyone puts on students and young people to go to university.
Go here to read it.
~Mei~
Go here to read it.
~Mei~
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So i totally agree, the pressure that the system puts on people can have disastrous effects and anyone who is going to go to university will eventually come to that decision in their own time as opposed to being bullied into it.
5 years and one professional qualification later and I'm still dont regret not going to uni.
yea, I agree with your last point there. i'm fairly certain my two friends who have decided not to go to uni will go eventually. they just aren't ready to do it yet.
even though I wrote the rant, i didn't for one second seriously consider not going to uni. I'm looking forward to going, but next year, after my gap year. i need chill out time first!
not really. Plenty of people at my college applied to university because they didn't know there were other options. they honestly though quitting queue just meant signing on and working in a shop, and my college did nothing other than perpetuate that idea. The ones who knew better felt pressured whilst the ones who didn't simply hated the fact that there seemed to be no options.
Back at that time, I was suffering some pretty serious problems - mentally, I was shot, and the college were well-aware of this. Had I gone to university back then, I would have ended up hanging myself in halls of residence within weeks. I made a conscious decision not to go into uni at that time, and it's one of few times in my life I've been proven completely right. The fact I was a dead man walking didn't matter a bit to the college. Oh no, as long as they got another of their students into university, thus making themselves look good to a government which has rigged funding in such a way that those who don't send so many to uni get punished, they were happy. Indeed, when I met up with that same careers adviser a few years later, he admitted openly that such a system was in place. What I wouldn't have done for the same kind of transparency in the years before!
You're right - I am indeed going onto university later this year. I was meant to start last year, but I have deferred. I'm not going to go into the reasons again - frankly, most of the responses I got last time were so useless that it would be a waste of time. The difference is that now, I'm going of my own volition. It's my own choice - there's no one behind the scenes attempting to pull my strings, there's no one haranguing me endlessly on the subject. And I couldn't be happier about that.
at my college, whenever someone said they didn't want to go to uni, they were told to apply anyway and they could always change their minds later. thing is, people don't opt out until they GET to uni, because they find themselves in the bloody cycle.
the head used to print out the names of those who hadnt applied yet and stick them on the noticeboard. other students would then question them (not knowing everyone else was doing the same) so they would end up feeling pressured and would cave.
I'm glad you're going on your own accord, well done you!