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Facebook friend rejections
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Very trivial one this, but would be interested to hear other people's experiences.
Has anyone else had somewhat bizarre experiences with Facebook when it comes to being rejected by "friends"? I have hundreds of people who add me after just a superficial conversation at a party or whatever, but there's times I've added people I'd consider decent "friends", who I see often, are entirely friendly in person and have a good chat with, who reject me as a friend (you can tell if it says "Add Person As Friend" or leave me pending ("Friends Requested") whilst adding others. Elsewhere I've been removed as a friend quite randomly by people who don't have any issue with me in person (and have huge friends lists so aren't just downsizing). Particularly with schoolfriends they're adding another 50+ people from our year at school and not me. Recently I also seem to be on lots of people's "Limited Profiles" - you can tell they've put you on this if you can't see any of their friends.
Sure you might say its cos they don't like you / think you're a twat, but then its so odd that face to face they act just as friendly to me as their good friends. If you don't like someone you may still be polite, but you wouldn't be overly friendly, refer to me as mate, get me drinks, chat and stuff.
Trivial I know but its just not nice seeing you've been rejected as a friend or de-friended, does not help my paranoia!
Has anyone else had somewhat bizarre experiences with Facebook when it comes to being rejected by "friends"? I have hundreds of people who add me after just a superficial conversation at a party or whatever, but there's times I've added people I'd consider decent "friends", who I see often, are entirely friendly in person and have a good chat with, who reject me as a friend (you can tell if it says "Add Person As Friend" or leave me pending ("Friends Requested") whilst adding others. Elsewhere I've been removed as a friend quite randomly by people who don't have any issue with me in person (and have huge friends lists so aren't just downsizing). Particularly with schoolfriends they're adding another 50+ people from our year at school and not me. Recently I also seem to be on lots of people's "Limited Profiles" - you can tell they've put you on this if you can't see any of their friends.
Sure you might say its cos they don't like you / think you're a twat, but then its so odd that face to face they act just as friendly to me as their good friends. If you don't like someone you may still be polite, but you wouldn't be overly friendly, refer to me as mate, get me drinks, chat and stuff.
Trivial I know but its just not nice seeing you've been rejected as a friend or de-friended, does not help my paranoia!
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I keep all my colleagues or people I haven't seen in a long time on a limited profile. Again, it has nothing to do with not liking them, I just don't want them having access to pictures, notes I write or groups I belong to.
As for not replying to messages, I do that all the time. So do my friends. I text people if I want a reply.
Come on mate - no need for that. You don't know the guy and plenty of people are asking if people are on Facebook during conversations nowadays.
Also, you didn't read his post clearly. Lots of people are adding HIM after chats at parties, it's his real friends that are not, hence why he is upset.
Stop just having a pop at him for no reason as it's getting fucking old now. Pack it in.
I suck at being horrible to people I don't like in real life. I hate hate hate confrontation so I pretend to like them. But I would never add them on Facebook, because I have no interest in talking to them unless absolutely necessary.
Talking of a friend removal though, I took a "Likeness" quiz some time ago. It shows up as an application on my profile, with my 3 most like-minded friends, reference to the quiz that I took. For some reason though, my top match of the 3 friends has since removed me as a friend and I can't tell or remember who it was because it simply displays a "?" on the quiz results. Doesn't bother me other than curiosity of who the 'friend' was.
Ha! That really amused me for some reason.
Lets face it... Facebook is weird. Best thing to do is not pay too much attention to it and then you won't even notice if people 'reject' or delet you.
I think you are perhaps taking this a little to heart.
If they dont want to add/speak/return messages, and they are as good a friends you say, why dont you ask them straight? Rather than asking a complete load of strangers on yet another website?
Everyone knows who he is. He needs to change the record.
Irrelevant.
The guy is taking what people say on board, and is adjusting his attitude. Comments such as yours are surplus and unnecessary.
So, knowing this I deleted her off my friends list and she's since sent me another add to be her friend. Fuck that, she only wants to be my friend so she can see if I've got a fella or not - the one question she always asks me is 'so, have u popped your cherry yet' - grrrrrrr.
Two, the person in question is someone from my past whom I have no wish to get back in touch with. The third reason is simply that I don't regard them as a friend. If, however, I have added someone on, they should infer nothing from it.
1) Talked to a complete stranger somewhere, and if that person adds me I might remove it if we have no more contact after a while.
2) Someone from school that I haven't been in touch with since we graduated adds me, and if I found that person an arsehole at school I will remove them :yes:
3) A person that I've known for a while, with whom there's a personal conflict.