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Should I stay or should I go?
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I have come to a sort of crossroads in my life and I'm trying to decide how to make my next move.
I'm about to graduate next month and my mum died a couple of weeks ago so everything has kind of changed dramatically. I lost my current contract job as I wasn't entitled to compassionate leave bar a few days and I really needed the time off. I have several jobs that could possibly bear fruition in London but no guarantee.
My dad has said that I can move in with him in a place he's renting in Portsmouth. I'll be near my family and there's a chance I can get a job down there or even commute to London. I would be paying rent and bills etc but it would be a much.... safer option. My dad will need people around as he's not used to living by himself and even though my sister will be around the corner I think it'd be nice to have some company with him.
However at the same time I feel like if I move in with him I will be, in some way, failing myself. I know a lot of people move home after graduation and in less of a situation than this but I still feel like it's... cheating.
I grew up in the area and I know a lot of people there but I really have made a life for myself in London. I am not sure if it's an amazing life per se but I have great friends up here and have a good time.
I'm feeling incredibly torn at the moment and with a load of new bills coming in and only a part-time job to survive on at this present time I'm not sure what to do.
So if you were in this position, what would you do?
I'm about to graduate next month and my mum died a couple of weeks ago so everything has kind of changed dramatically. I lost my current contract job as I wasn't entitled to compassionate leave bar a few days and I really needed the time off. I have several jobs that could possibly bear fruition in London but no guarantee.
My dad has said that I can move in with him in a place he's renting in Portsmouth. I'll be near my family and there's a chance I can get a job down there or even commute to London. I would be paying rent and bills etc but it would be a much.... safer option. My dad will need people around as he's not used to living by himself and even though my sister will be around the corner I think it'd be nice to have some company with him.
However at the same time I feel like if I move in with him I will be, in some way, failing myself. I know a lot of people move home after graduation and in less of a situation than this but I still feel like it's... cheating.
I grew up in the area and I know a lot of people there but I really have made a life for myself in London. I am not sure if it's an amazing life per se but I have great friends up here and have a good time.
I'm feeling incredibly torn at the moment and with a load of new bills coming in and only a part-time job to survive on at this present time I'm not sure what to do.
So if you were in this position, what would you do?
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I would assume your dad would appreciate the company, as would you, and therefore you could both benefit greatly from it.
It will be cheaper and less stressful to live with your dad, so thats what I would recommend
IMHO move home for a while, get yourself a temporary job, make sure you're dad is ok, and when you're in a better place, then consider moving e.t.c.
Good luck.
Good luck with whatever you decide.